I think each cat is so unique in personality that you can't really have a definite answer. We had a male cat, Sylvester, for 16 years, who was really a lap cat. He was always sitting on me- Sitting in my lap when I sit in a chair, laying on my chest when I'm lying on the couch watching TV, sleeping on me or next to me, coming to be with me when I was sad or sick... and he always let me pick him up and carry him around.
While we had him, we got another female cat, Tiffany. We didn't know anything about a "proper" way to introduce cats, so we were kind of just like, "Hey, Sylvester, meet your new buddy!" and they were fighting all the time. We only had her for a few months before we decided to rehome her because her and Sylvester weren't getting along any better. I don't really remember her being quite as affectionate as Sylvester, but she did sleep above my head on my pillow most nights.
After Sylvester passed, we got two female cats from the same litter- Puffy and Callie. They were both very different from each other, and also very different from Sylvester or even Tiffany. Both were/are the opposite of lap cats. Puffy could be affectionate and rub on you and enjoy being petted, but she hated being picked up and I don't think she ever once sat in my lap in the 8 years that she was alive. I think she may have sat next to me on the couch once. She did sleep on my parents' bed, though. Callie is even more standoffish. She hides when people come over. Most of our family and friends have never seen her, or have only gotten a glimpse of her when she's watching everyone from the top of the stairs. And when my brother comes over, she doesn't hide, but she does hiss at him. lol. Like Puffy, she hates being picked up, except by my dad. My dad is the only one she lets carry her and she snuggles on him and everything. lol. She lets me and my mom pet her, but she gets over-stimulated quickly and then swats at us if we pet her for too long. She does sleep next to my mom once in a while, though.
So in my experience, I almost can say that male cats are definitely more easygoing, cuddly, and affectionate than female cats, but then I remember Tiffany and she was very similar to Sylvester in that she liked being picked up and she liked sitting in your lap, and she liked sleeping on my head. lol