Confining a Cat

aniela · 11-07-2012, 09:46 PM

So I was talking to my latest winner of a boyfriend. After my conversation with him yesterday, this is pretty much my view of him so be warned. We got onto the topic of moving in. I told him it was too soon and that I had 8 months left on my lease and that we'd talk about it more seriously when it is up.

Well, he has two large breed dogs and has them confined to crates while he is at work or sleeping (16-18 hours a day!). One of his dogs isn't doing well. She is very old and has lots of health issues. In a nutshell, he mentioned that he will be keeping her crate where it is when she passes. I naturally asked why and he said, in all seriousness, that Oz could stay in the crate whenever his dog was confined to the crate. His logic is that it would not be fair to his dog to have Oz always have the run of the house. The dog would always be jealous.

What?

I told him I wasn't going to confine my cat and that confining to a crate was cruel. He then suggested the bathroom or bedroom. Again, I told him I wasn't confining my cat period.

It's ridiculous. Time to start looking for a new boyfriend. He seems like he has a thing against cats because they are "mean and evil" creatures.

crazyismycat · 11-07-2012, 10:31 PM

He is evil for confining dogs in crates for all their lives

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3furbabies · 11-08-2012, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by crazyismycat

He is evil for confining dogs in crates for all their lives

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Agreed. He shouldn't have dogs if he has no time for them and seriously locking up an elderly dog till it dies? I'd definately be looking for a new bf. he'd probably lock your cat away when you weren't home.

nicichan · 11-08-2012, 08:59 AM

Why does he find it necessary to confine a dog or a cat in a crate for most of the day? I understand that there may be a room or two in the house that you don't want your pets to have access to while you're out or asleep if you're worried about them breaking stuff, but surely locking them up in a small crate can't be the solution. Maybe he can rearrange things in his house/apartment a bit to give them more space instead.

Ritzpg · 11-08-2012, 11:28 AM

Ask your (x) boyfriend if you can adopt the elder dog.
And then tell the boyfriend he has been replaced. By the dog.

binkyhoo · 11-08-2012, 02:07 PM

Put him in the crate when the dog is out. Realy?

MowMow · 11-08-2012, 02:43 PM

I'm a firm believer in crate training but once the dog is older and reliable there's no reason to keep them confined, imo.

Crates should be a happy place. We always had them (my family raises dogs) and there would be 5-6 crates stacked up in the laundry room. The doors open all the time unless someone needed to be crated. The dogs would go in there for peace and quiet and we were taught to leave them alone when they were crated. It was THEIR quiet place.

I would absolutely never confine one of my cats like. That would be horrified and miserable. Perhaps BF just needs some training.....

Arkona · 11-08-2012, 02:54 PM

I don't think I could date someone who confines their dogs. I definitely wouldn't move in with someone who plans to confine my cat.

Nan · 11-08-2012, 03:09 PM

Good thing you found out about his opinions before you actually moved in together!
I would never crate dogs either, except for maybe puppies during the night.

Arianwen · 11-08-2012, 03:34 PM

Never used a crate - if I don't want them in a particular room I close the door but my babies - feline and canine - have a pretty loose rein.

Get shot of him - he's a creep.

11-07-2012, 09:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
aniela Jr. Cat Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: United States of America Posts: 84	Confining a Cat So I was talking to my latest winner of a boyfriend. After my conversation with him yesterday, this is pretty much my view of him so be warned. We got onto the topic of moving in. I told him it was too soon and that I had 8 months left on my lease and that we'd talk about it more seriously when it is up. Well, he has two large breed dogs and has them confined to crates while he is at work or sleeping (16-18 hours a day!). One of his dogs isn't doing well. She is very old and has lots of health issues. In a nutshell, he mentioned that he will be keeping her crate where it is when she passes. I naturally asked why and he said, in all seriousness, that Oz could stay in the crate whenever his dog was confined to the crate. His logic is that it would not be fair to his dog to have Oz always have the run of the house. The dog would always be jealous. What? I told him I wasn't going to confine my cat and that confining to a crate was cruel. He then suggested the bathroom or bedroom. Again, I told him I wasn't confining my cat period. It's ridiculous. Time to start looking for a new boyfriend. He seems like he has a thing against cats because they are "mean and evil" creatures. __________________

11-08-2012, 02:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
binkyhoo Cat Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: wisconsin,usa Posts: 257	Put him in the crate when the dog is out. Realy? __________________ tamara

11-08-2012, 02:43 PM	#7 (permalink)
MowMow Premier Cat Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,934	I'm a firm believer in crate training but once the dog is older and reliable there's no reason to keep them confined, imo. Crates should be a happy place. We always had them (my family raises dogs) and there would be 5-6 crates stacked up in the laundry room. The doors open all the time unless someone needed to be crated. The dogs would go in there for peace and quiet and we were taught to leave them alone when they were crated. It was THEIR quiet place. I would absolutely never confine one of my cats like. That would be horrified and miserable. Perhaps BF just needs some training..... __________________ CF Sig by KrisMowBook, on Flickr

11-08-2012, 03:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
Nan Cool Cat Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Indianapolis IN Posts: 1,275	Good thing you found out about his opinions before you actually moved in together! I would never crate dogs either, except for maybe puppies during the night. __________________

11-07-2012, 10:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
crazyismycat Cat Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Montreal Posts: 196	He is evil for confining dogs in crates for all their lives Sent from my iPhone using Petguide.com Free App

11-08-2012, 08:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
nicichan Jr. Cat Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 98	Why does he find it necessary to confine a dog or a cat in a crate for most of the day? I understand that there may be a room or two in the house that you don't want your pets to have access to while you're out or asleep if you're worried about them breaking stuff, but surely locking them up in a small crate can't be the solution. Maybe he can rearrange things in his house/apartment a bit to give them more space instead.

11-08-2012, 11:28 AM	#5 (permalink)
Ritzpg Tom Cat Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: near Washington, DC Posts: 562	Ask your (x) boyfriend if you can adopt the elder dog. And then tell the boyfriend he has been replaced. By the dog.

11-08-2012, 02:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
Arkona Cat Join Date: May 2012 Location: NJ, USA Posts: 184	I don't think I could date someone who confines their dogs. I definitely wouldn't move in with someone who plans to confine my cat.

11-08-2012, 03:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
Arianwen Cat Addict Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: South Wales, UK Posts: 1,606	Never used a crate - if I don't want them in a particular room I close the door but my babies - feline and canine - have a pretty loose rein. Get shot of him - he's a creep.

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