Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Westchester, NY
@marcia - I kind of feel like others have noted, that its not my role to "forgive" him, since he didn't do anything to me personally. I understand what you're saying though, I just don't think "forgivness" is what will allow me stop resenting him. In fact, I don't think he really deserves any kind of forgiveness since he doesn't seems to regret what he did! I think my only recourse is to give him a cold shoulder until I have some sort of indication that he regrets what he did. Only then can I convince myself that he had made a terrible mistake and than I might be able to give him a second chance. I can learn to not resent him if I know it was a mistake, but I will never stop resenting him if he has no regret.
@ragdoll-joy - I agree,and I'd want to kill whoever hurt my babies too. I was so incredibly angry at my BIL because in my imagination he had put one of my little babies into the trap and thrown him away to die.