I'm looking for a little advice if anyone has been in a similar situation. We have two cats, one is Fifi, 4 yr-old extremely skittish spayed female. We've had her for more than three years. The other is 8 month-old Bingo, a neutered male. We've had him about two months now. I thought we did everything right as far as their introduction as we kept them completely apart the first week, then followed all those often suggested steps of slow introduction. The thing is, once Bingo realized Fifi was afraid of him, this bully behavior took over. It's hard to tell when he's playing and when he just feels like Fifi has no business being near us or near the litterbox or near the food.. Most of the time it seems as though Fifi sees him as a threat or nuisance. There are good times when clearly they are playing (taking turns chasing each other, no hissing, no growling). Fifi every once in a while will entice him to play - I assume this because she will come up to him when he is sleeping and just whack him. He'll get up and the chasing begins. There are days though like today and Wednesday when he is relentlessly chasing her and keeping her out of this room or that room, even the litterbox as I mentioned above.. Though fortunately, it does seem she has already done her business by the time he chases her, I don't want this to escalate and the box becomes a place of fear for her.
We're going out of town tomorrow for almost a week. We have a professional cat sitter coming in once a day for half an hour to feed, water, and clean our two litter boxes. I have gone back and forth in deciding whether or not to separate them when we're away. I can't decide what the best situation is for them. Of course the company of the other would be desirable, but is it really for them? Will Bingo be a terror the whole time? Will things get worse between them? If I do separate them, will they be strangers when we return and need to be reintroduced all over again? Or will they have missed each other and be happy to see the other and get along better than ever? If we keep them together and we're not around to rouse jealousy from Bingo, will they be mostly calm and decent company to each other? Maybe they will then be better friends?
My husband and sister say I should let them be together, they will be fine. I'm over-thinking this. But they aren't around as much as I am to see Bingo at his worst. We had two really bad days this week. Yesterday was good though.. I shot the linked video below yesterday when things were good. Do these cats get along OK? It kind of seems like it. Even as I'm typing this, Fifi is sleeping on a footstool by the window and Bingo is under it looking out the window, completely non-plussed by Fifi being nearby. All is well.
What should I do? Thanks in advance for an insight and advice!
Video from yesterday: Fifi and Bingo Sitting in a Tree - YouTube