Can I repair a bond with a cat?
Lately I get the feeling that my cat Molly doesn't like me anymore. We used to be "best friends". I got her a little over a year ago. At the time I was unemployed and having a hard go of things for various reasons. I spent a lot of time at home and was almost always with her. We developed a very close bond very quickly. Then things changed.
We moved into a new apartment, and a few months later we got a kitten, and then my boyfriend with whom she also has a close bond went abroad for three months. The week he came back I started studying full time and am away for 8 hours everyday. I'm no longer the one to feed her, and I have hardly any time to spend with her anymore. I try to give her attention, but the now 6 month old kitten is always there so we don't get much one on one time.
I have to also admit that there have been a few situations when I worry I've damaged the relationship further. Molly has litter box issues. She always poops on the floor. She (almost) always has. We're going to work on that soon and we have a few ideas how to fix the issue. She'll sometimes pee on the floor, too, and she has terrible timing. It feels like the few times she does pee on the floor, it's right before a new friend is coming over for the first time. I don't think she's doing it because of that because she can't possibly know that someone is coming over as I don't do anything different that would signal that, and she does it other times, too, when there is poo in the litter box (the kitten's). But when she does do it, I get really angry and yell at her. I know she doesn't know why I'm yelling and I really regret doing it. But then she sits outside the bathroom watching me clean up her pee and it makes me angrier and I think she can sense that.
I've been trying to bond with her in ways that we have in the past but I can feel there's a difference. She doesn't really "smile" at me anymore. Do you know what I mean by a cat "smiling" at you? She doesn't run up to me with her tail up, giving me her weird little squawk/meow greeting. She doesn't bump her head against my hand when I hold out my fist to her (I call it a "cat dap"). She hardly ever cuddles with me anymore. I can't really get her to purr anymore, even when she does cuddle with me. She doesn't even really seem to enjoy it when I pet her now. I've also tried giving her the slow blink, and she doesn't return it.
I haven't asked my boyfriend if anything has changed between the two of them. He's not as sensitive to stuff like that anyway. I know he loves the cats, but I'm not sure he thinks of having relationships with them the same way that I do. Also she has bonded with the kitten. She doesn't like it sometimes when Frida (kitten) is really wound up, but otherwise they're friends.
Is there anything I can do to repair our bond and get it back to the way it was before? Or could something else be going on here? Any advice and/or insight is greatly appreciated.