So iv googled this subject into the ground. Iv read countless websites.
But i still cant seem to be at peace with myself on this.
If you guys could just give me some reassuring that im doing the right thing, i would appreciate it more than you know!
I just got my first cat 3 weeks ago yesterday. He was a very shy kitty, at the rescue he was hiding in his cage and would avoid letting me touch or even get my hand close to him.
I started him off in our laundry room as i read should be done with new cats. But he was hiding behind the washer so much that i was getting worried about his health (all kinds of dust back there/ really cramped space) i didnt force him out, and after a few days i left the door open to let him explore on his own terms.
Eventually, while he was out of the room i blocked off his hiding spot because like i said i was getting worried. And i did have a box in there for him to hide which he used after he realized he couldnt get behind the washer and dryer.
After a week he started exploring while we were sleeping. I thought this was great! I was expecting more time for him to decide to venture out! Eventually he decided he didnt like the laundry room too much and would instead hide on the chairs in our formal dining room, which we hardly use. Which as of now has been claimed as 'his' territory.
Ill be honest, i did bother him while he was hiding in the chairs. I would sit by the table and just talk to him and giving him plenty of slow blinks. There were a few hiccups on my part.
After another week he would let me pet him on rare rare rare occasions, mostly when he was real sleepy. He'll nudge my fingers and rub into my petting and scratching like he cant get enough.
Fast forward to now and he seems to be a lot more comfortable, but still on edge. If i approach the table he hisses at me, but as soon as i sit and he sees im not coming after him he stops. (This is why i knew he was a good cat when i saw him at the shelter, even though he was dreadfully shy and scared he was not aggresive. And when i was able to pet him i noticed his ears would relax)
He approaches me occasionally but only if im sitting on the couch, and never comes within a few feet of me. He just gets to where he can see me, then sita and watches. The other night i was watching tv and he walked in front of the couch then over to his spot. A few minutes go by and he does it again but this time he runs. My gf says hes probably trying to get my attention so i look to see where he is, and hes sitting behind the couch looking over at the kitchen. The little guy was hungry!
I know im kind of rambling, so ill try and hurry up to the point.
Hes starting to communicate with me(including the rare meow, a total of maybe 6 times since hes been here) he doesnt bolt uf someone walks past the table while hes eating anymore. He lets me pet him a lot more now, as long as hes in the comfort of his chairs. He plays with me even if im standing now. He does hiss when i approach him, but his ears stay up high and his fur doesnt twitch or stand up, which i assume means he is still scared if me.( i dont blame him, im a pretty tall guy and my feet are as big as he is
These are just the signs of improvement im noticing. I give him lots of space, even when im bothering him in his spot im not putting my hands in his face i just sit with him. And if he turns away from me or looks like hes telling me to leave him alone, ill go find something else to do.
Im just wondering, how much more time do you think i should expect before he really starts to make himself at home?
Hes 6 months old, (thats him in my avatar, i took that picture while we were playing, just before he realized he was sitting right next to me and took off!)
From what i understand the rescue got him when he was 3 months old so im guessing he might be a tad bit under-socialized.
Also, he has a clipped ear. I dont know his past, so i dont know if he was a feral kitten, or if they decided to clip his ear anyways when he got neutered
I wont be dissapointed if hes never a lap cat. I just want him to be comfortable, i feel bad that this guy spent so long in a cage. And even worse because there was another kitten that looked his age in there with him, also scared of people. Im guessing they were probably buddies and i feel bad that i couldnt take them both home...
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i really do appreciate it!