Driving to work one morning with the BF, I see a tiny kitten (~8 weeks) sitting on top of an 8 foot tall barbed wire fence waiting patiently for rescue. How he could have gotten up there I can only speculate. Naturally I obliged. I picked him up and after 20 minutes of wandering around with him in my arms wondering what to do now and seeing no obvious solutions, I decided to take him home.
The saga of Tiny kitten, the abridged version: He got a clean bill of health from the vet and spent the next few weeks in the bathroom and bedroom getting adjusted while I worked on winning over Bean Cat (8yo spayed female and boss) to the idea of a roommate.
After careful internet based study including the very helpful thread of Hoofmaiden's introduction of Jonah. I decided to take things slowly. There was no visual contact for a few weeks, then room swapping for a few more and now (6 weeks later) we have interactions through a gate. Tiny Kitten (real name now Spoon) has been wonderful. He obviously wants to play with Bean Cat, but is respectful of her hissing. I've had Bean for 6 years after adopting her from a shelter and she's never been keen on other cats.
Last night we had the first (intentional) free interaction time. It did not go as well as one might have hoped. Lots of hissing and growling from Bean. We stopped it before it could become a fight, but now I'm so depressed.
I guess it will take more time. I've used feliway, treats at the gate, praise and playtime and anything I can think of.
Maybe I just need some encouragement and other success stories. I throw myself on the mercy of the forum! Is there hope, or should I start looking for a new home for Tiny kitten? It would break my heart to give him away, but it isn't fair that he is getting constantly hissed at. *sigh*