Hey guys new here!
Adopted a male cat from the shelter about a year ago. Decided to adopt another one a week ago. Things are not going so well for our new little girl.
I thought maybe someone with more experience could give us some advice on how to deal with this situation.
I know you probably get allot of questions regarding cat behavior and how to manage certain situations. But I am still hoping you are able to answer some of mine regarding 2 adopted younger cats.
We adopted a lovely boy from the shelter 9 months ago. Salem was 9 weeks at the time. He turned from a timid shy kitten into a little playful energetic rascal that tests our patients and our limits constantly. he is a real goof.
We decided to adopt another cat from the same shelter now that he is still young. Rosie was completely the opposite when we saw her at the shelter. outgoing, playful, adventurous, just turned 6 months ( but she is a tiny thing and he is huge)
We started out slow, giving her one room to explore. Feeding them on each side of a closed door for 2 days. Then letting her sleep in the bathroom to get comfortable somewhere else. On day three we started to trade placed for 1 hour, so she could explore the living room and they could both get used to scents.
day 4 we introduced them. He hissed and prowled at her. she did not give him any of her attention too busy exploring things. But the next day he still prowled her and would hunt her. She got scared...and started hissing at him.....and charging him! she smacked him in the face and he went on his back but did not do anything back.
she continued to charge him and he would back up. But he would not leave her alone, still prowling and cornering her.
We decided to take things slow again and kept them separated for 2 days again, feeding them with the door slightly open so they could see each other. they would eat without hissing, and even play with toys through the door together. But the moment he was too rough again and went for her paw really hard she started hissing again because he was being very harsh and predator like. even at feeding time she would hiss.
We decided that she felt confident enough now to explore the living room and him in it with us around.
She gave him no room for attacks, even though he tried every time. He creeps up from behind stalking her and then pounces her like she is prey. He does not hurt her very bad, because she fights him off immediately with a fierce passion and it throws him off big time. he will back off instantly. she stares him down and hisses until he retreats.
He is meowing at us, making funny frustrated noises, making gunny purr noises that sound like what is this???? trying to sniff her. She stared him down a couple of times tonight and he will lay down. She will find a higher place and he will try to dominate her but she won't let him. he will then lie below the higher place. attempting to get back up without success.
But the moment she runs to somewhere to play he hunts her from behind again and sometimes really hard. She still does not back down and hisses and bats him. She even hisses at us when we touch her. she will look at us and hiss too. she is so unsure. She is very scared, but has chosen the offensive side.
Next day. He won't leave her alone. She tries to explore, but he follows her around and corners her. Now he has started to attack her face on. he slams both his paws as hard as possible. She fights back and growls, and tries to get away but he won't let her. even when she is in her own room on the bed he attacks her until she is in a corner. He attacks hard, I saw some fur fly.......I separate them, closing her door to give her space.
I take it slow again and leave her in her own room for a couple of days and do the rotation thing again. But the moment she sees him she hisses and tells him to back off, and he will torment her and attack her without pause.
This has been going on for a week. It is so stressful for Rosie
she is such a lovely playful and sweet natured cat.
What can I do to make him stop hurting her and attacking her. we tried feeding them together, proper introduction through closed doors with food on each side, playing with things together underneath the door. then playing together in one room. then giving them alone time, and switching rooms. praising them when things are good. he always goes for her. and not in a playful way. she is so sick of being tormented.