Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
This is terribly sad. Yes, when you cannot stand to see him suffer - or when the issues get too much for you to deal with you will know the time has come.
Our 16 year old Sam was so sick with vomiting, diarrhea, etc., but the blood work was fine. We tried everything, but it was clear he was fading fast. He did the same thing, purred, cuddled and let me hold him like a baby over my shoulder - sniff - but I knew he was fading. After two months it became intolerable and I knew it was inevitable. He was losing control of his bowels everywhere - it was just too much. After stepping in it over and over I knew it was time. It was either keep him locked up in a small room or corner or let him go with dignity. He deserved no less. You will know and it won't be easy. Bottom line, don't let him suffer or be shut away in a room.
Best wishes. Most of us have been there and understand your grief.
Cat owners' prayer: "Lord help me be the person my cat thinks I am"