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post #11 of 22 (permalink) Old 04-14-2017, 04:34 PM
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Congratulations! Lily's beautiful - though wow, she is a big girl!

No fighting is a good sign. I could be wrong, but in my experience, growling is more a way of masking fear than it is of being aggressive - a defensive tactic rather than an offensive one. So once she feels completely comfortable, that'll probably go away. I'd just make sure that each kitty has a safe place to retreat to in case they feel threatened or just want to get away.

If things don't improve, you can always try the slow intro with separating the kitties. But I hope it doesn't come to that!

Oh. If the Meow Mix is hard enough that it rolls, try skittering the kibble one piece at a time across the floor, so that she has to chase her food before eating it. It'll force her to get some exercise and to eat more slowly. One of my kitties who was never very active and not into playing loved this game. It's better on a hard surface, like linoleum or hardwood, than on carpeting, since the kibble will ricochet off surfaces in unpredictable directions and send kitty running around.
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If you have carpets, you can also get one of those treat rolling ball. Also, I highly recommend a toy called Da Bird. It gets my cats up and moving any time of day.

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I actually have a treat ball! I hadn't thought about that since Onyx never played with it, but Lily might! I also have Da Bird. Lily hates it... she's completely terrified of it and hides as soon as she sees it. Onyx loves it, but for Lily it's not going to be the right toy.

I know it's only been a week, but I am getting slightly discouraged. Rather than getting better, it seems to be getting worse. Onyx is ever curious about his new roommate, but Lily only seems happy when Onyx is locked away. She has escalated to chasing and hitting Onyx (granted, she has no claws, but it's still disturbing to me). And she is frequently hitting, biting, and hissing at me. She seems mostly fine when she's the only cat out, and she was properly affectionate and trusting with me at the vet yesterday. I am almost wondering if she would do better as an only cat. I have a friend who has shown some interest in her. I am considering options... I want to do what's best for her and Onyx both. Onyx has not been eating lately from the stress, so even though he's been much quieter, I know it's affecting him, too...
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Your beautiful Lily has established herself as "the boss". She'll likely be more relaxed now, and hopefully nicer to your sweet boy Onyx.

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She is definitely the boss!! She's not any nicer to Onyx, though... she keeps growling and hissing and chasing him. I *really* want this to work out, but I've also put out feelers with a couple local cat rescue networks to see if anyone is looking hard for a declawed calico who can be their only cat. I think she might be happier as an only cat. But I haven't made any decisions yet.
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I'm cautiously hopeful. They are able to occupy the same room without fighting sometimes, and I'm able to pet them at the same time from time to time. They will also eat treats about a foot apart and mostly be able to focus on the food. There is still some hissing and growling and chasing. I'm giving it some time, though. Maybe this can work out after all. She's becoming a bit of a cuddlebug with me, which is very sweet. Although she does still have moments where she gets overstimulated and attacks me as I'm petting her. Not sure what to do about that...
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Aw, what a little sweetie. And she certainly looks like she's made herself at home!

I'm glad to hear things are going better. It's hard to be patient, but it really hasn't been very long since you brought her home, so give it another couple of weeks. The fact that they're already able to get their treats while that close to each other is a good sign.

As for the overstimulation, I had a kitty who did that too. She'd be looking for all the world like she was totally content with the head scratching or whatever, eyes closed, then all of a sudden, eyes open, paws and teeth on my hand. No claws out, and just a gentle little bite, enough to let me know that she'd had enough and to back off. Try to watch for signs, like the tail flicking back and forth, or if she's lying down, lifting her head up to look at you. Margaux's tail didn't flick; it thumped. Once. Then a few seconds later, again. I learned to leave her alone after the first tail thump.
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Haha she has made herself at home for the most part, although she has deemed the bathroom "home base". That's where she retreats when she's scared or overwhelmed.

I've noticed something slightly concerning... I'm going to make a thread about it in the health section. Lily's pupils dilate frequently... and then they'll shrink to little slivers, then dilate huge again. It's not at all similar to how Onyx's eyes behave. Now, I know pupil dilation can be a sign of fear, but with what I'm seeing, I'm almost wondering if she has some issues with her sight. Her eyes aren't cloudy at all, but maybe this could be the cause of the sudden, unexpected attacking? Maybe she is being startled because she doesn't see my hand or something?
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Anyone up for some Lily pics?? We took a selfie hahaha so don't mind me looking like a tool in the background.
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Her pics are gorgeous.....she sounds like she has settled in well, now that she's established the 'pecking order'. As for her biting your hand... as well as watching closely for any tail twitches of annoyance, try to notice if it's the position of your hand---some cats do not like a hand coming over their head and will nip, but if approached under the chin or directed at the cheeks are fine with that. Put a tiny smear of butter on a finger, not on the hand that's doing the petting, and before any sign of over-stimulation let her smell the butter on the finger and let her lick it off --alternate with a treat or a catnip mousie when you've finished. This should change her mind about 'biting the hand that feeds her'.

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