Is there anything more painful then making "The Descision"?

[Meezer_lover]

Originally Posted by its.alice

Oh my4kitties, your story put me in tears.

x2.

[my4kitties]

I forgot to mention that my 17 year old daughter was under the dining room table with Smokey, so she had a front row seat, so to speak. She had been trying to syringe feed him, since that was the only way he was eating. We were feeding him every three to four hours with the syringe. At 7:00pm, I tried to feed him, but he refused to eat. Around 10:30pm, my daughter tried to feed him. Again, he refused. It was shortly after this that he went into cardiac arrest. She was trying to console him.

[cooncatbob]

I think that when we lose our little furry Soulmate it can bring up a lot of our unresolved past griefs.
I got a copy of "The Kingdom of Heart" a Pet Loss Journal and it help me right after I lost Samantha.
It has a place where you write your pet a letter and I wrote to Samantha and told her how much I cherished our time together and how I would always love her and hoped we'd be reunited again someday.
There's also a place where you write a letter to yourself from your beloved pet and this really helped me.
I tried to give a voice to my beloved friend and she told me that she loved me too and that it wasn't my fault, it was just her time to go.
She told me I was a good Papa, always loving and kind to his little girls.
She told me she was with Meme waiting for me to join them someday and for Chiquita to take good care of their Papa.

[my4kitties]

Originally Posted by its.alice

Oh my4kitties, your story put me in tears. I wish there was some way we could keep our little ones with us(physically) forever.


(As I was crying, and tears were rolling down my face, Alice got on my lap and started licking the tears away. I love my kitten.)

I wish I could have had Smokey longer. As it is, he wasn't even two years old when he crossed The Bridge.

Aww, Alice is such a sweetie!

[my4kitties]

Originally Posted by its.alice

Oh my4kitties, your story put me in tears.

Originally Posted by Meezer_lover

x2.

Awww, I didn't mean to put anyone in tears (though, admittedly, I was in tears typing it). Here's a group hug to cheer us up.

[tghsmith]

every new one that comes home gets the talk, I don't know if its for me or them, "one day you will break my heart, you nor I can change this, all we can do is the best by each other in the time we have" in the last twenty-five years we have had many pass through our lives and the sorrow at the end is a very small price for the rest of the time.. that all being said it still can be very tough, I still miss our tinker cat that crossed last oct(she hated me for the first ten years and tolerated me for her last 4, go figure)

[Xanti]

It's a horrible decision to make..for us. Our pets don't know what we are thinking and are not scared anymore than usual at going to the vets. It is so hard for us though

I am saddened that we can't do the same thing for humans when there is no hope left.

Cooncat, your cat knew you loved her and could she speak to you now, she would say thank you.

[marie5890]

Originally Posted by cooncatbob

Thanks for the kind words.
The void our small ones leave behind is just enormous, I think those of use who live alone with just our pets have some much more contact with them then with other people, and they are always there for us.
In our relationship with our fellow human being there's always a hidden agenda and expectations.
Out little one are devoted to us alone, they're our special friends, they love us even if we're unworthy of their love.
For me the worst thing is when I come home, Samantha would always be there at the kitchen widow I'd see her as I'd pull into the driveway, as I got out of my car she'd disappear from the window and I'd hear her friendly chirp greeting me as I unlocked the door.
No matter how hard my day was it was forgotten as my baby welcomed her Papa home.
I'd feed her then get a cold drink and go into the living room where she would soon join me for some pets and play time, Little Chiquita would join in too.
The years passed so much faster for her, until that last terrible day she never looked old to me, many dogs get gray in the muzzle but Samantha looked the same her whole adult life.
What hurts is the suddenness of it all there was no sharp decline in her activity, we spent our normal bedtime together the night before then she wasn't waiting for breakfast she was still sleeping but seem okay, then that afternoon the nightmare began and the choice to say good-bye with love.

Amen.

You did right by her, CooncatBob. I know it's easy for our heads to understand that while our hearts hemmorage in the pain of saying "good-bye" but you gave her the gift of as limited suffering as possible.

You did right by her.

[Mitts & Tess]

I thought about your title ~ Is there anything worse than making the decission. My answer is YES.

Its when they are in a spiral going down and you cant find the answer or get rid of the illness which is taking its toll. By the end you know you dont have the answers and the loving thing to do is to let the cat pass to its next life.

I hope all my ferals and fosters meet me on the other side. Ive not forgotten any of them and think of them often. I do memorials for them. I get tears just typing this and memories of them.