Just a little update on Ben, she is doing very good, I can pet her, scratch her head, even under her chin, when I am sitting down, as long as I don't startle her. She now sleeps out in the open more often (not under the futon), and she likes to sleep on the pillow I sit on when I am with her!! She is more and more comfortable with her surroundings (her room!). Of course, this is after alot of interaction with her, when I am home during the day, which is alot, I don't let more than an hour go by without going in and paying attention to her - sitting with her, and there is the screen door on her room, and I am always talking with her, and so is my husband, and of course my himilayan cat loves to "talk" to her through the door also!! Alot of work, but rewarding when I see the progress! 3 months ago, I couldn't even touch her!!