Grieving in Ohio
Hello me and my girls are looking for fellow cat lovers who understand loss and for reading about other people's good and bad experiences as well witout being told how silly we act over our cats. I am38 and have an 18 and 13 year old daughters. We have a black stray kitten (spooky) who came to our home a week before Halloween, starved and injured an she was probably only about 4 weeks old. We took her in and nursed her to health and she is a joy.
This past Friday night our house cat Bruty, stopped eating and drinking that evening and was very lethargic. I had told my husband 1st thing in morning I was taking him to the vet. Spooky who usually aggravates Bruty until he gets up and plays with her, had simply stayed curled up by him with her chin layer on his side all night. This prompted more concern to me, about 1am I noticed him breathing rapidly. I felt his nose (dry) and give him water by a syringe. And pet and tried to cam him. I started looking up symptoms online and had thought gastro problems (we had tried a new food recently) and he had thrown up a couple of times, nothing drastic or out of the ordinary. So I stayed up til 5 am with him giving him 3cc's of water at a time til I passed out, his breathing seemed slower and him more alert.
The next morning I woke up at 10 am, Bruty was the same. So me and my girls left for the vet. Right off of the bat the vet told us to consider euthanizing him, that he was suffering. I could not understand that I said no I want to take him home slow his breathing and we will take it fom there. Not to make this longer than it is. Bruty. Who was 1 1/2 years old, healthy and had all his shots was in Chf, dr. said as young as he was probably a birth defect, no bacteria in fluids drawn off and heart was almost double the size in x - ray, the Dr. tried drawing fluid off and Lasix, bruty had deteriorated so fast he had progresses to open mouth breathing, gasping, sunken in sides and nose and gums cyanotic,and that was after being on oxygen for an hour an the other treatment. When seeing him like that and struggling to breath I finally understood why the vet suggested euthanization. This was sudden and we were not prepared for this outcome. He had bee active up until about 9pm. We said our goodbyes and left the vet, Bruty was unique, I have lost pets in the past but have never grieved like this, I don't know if its seeing my girls in pain, the way this happened or what. My biggest issue I am facing is my 13 yr old had a dream that he was mad at us for what we did. My 18 year old has read up on how it can be treated. This is the first cat I had to make that decision, did I act to rashly? Should I have gave it more time? The vet assured me that even if I took him to a hospital it would result in a more costly euthanization. Anyone else been in this boat,we made the decision together how do ease my children guilt?