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post #1 of 13 (permalink) Old 01-24-2013, 02:28 PM Thread Starter
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Hi and How to make a decision to adopt a cat?

Dear all,

I am G and I volunteered at our local Humane society about 3 years ago. Now my son volunteers there and he constantly talks about a cat he likes. It is an older cat, very nice and loving.
I met this cat last week and she is the most beautiful tabby I have seen - has amazing green eyes. I immediately felt a connection with this cat - meaning I liked her very very much.

For years in my family we have refrained from adopting a pet due to allergies to cats and dogs identified in my husband. Now, I really would like to adopt this cat and give her a chance to live in a loving and caring family.

Despite his allergy restrictions my husband seems to be more concerned with the responsibilities that having a pet in the house brings.

I hope you could all help us make the right decision when it comes to adopting or not adopting a beautiful cat from the Humane society.

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G
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It does need to be a joint decision but an awful lot can be done with allergies.

You sound as if you would make a wonderful owner.
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post #3 of 13 (permalink) Old 01-24-2013, 03:33 PM
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It does need to be a joint decision but an awful lot can be done with allergies.

You sound as if you would make a wonderful owner.
I agree with this. You and your son would make wonderful owners.

It sounds like your son knows about and has experience with the upkeep of animals and is willing to do it, by his volunteer experience.
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My son has allergies, but he takes a simple over the counter allergy med when he comes to visit. He now has taken in his own stray so he must be coping ok.
Sounds like that cat is a good match to your son and you if you are willing to help with the responsibilities. If he is old enough to volunteer, he is old enough to take care of a pet, but please be a back up - and prepare to be the forever mom if son moves out to college.

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I have allergies and they are pretty bad. If I am around a cat, my allergies go crazy, however, I have found that I am not allergic to Moosey and Ziggy anymore because I am used to having them around. I took OTC generic allergy pills, which work great, for a few weeks, then slowly weaned myself off of them. I now only have problems with allergies if other factors are introduced, such as when I am sick. (When my immune system is messed up, my allergies come back)

If your husband is more worried about responsibility, you should let your son know that he HAS to take care of the cat and make a chart of all the things that need to be done. When I was younger my parents got so sick of us having pets that they said they would give them away to family if we didn't take care of them.

If it is the aspect of financial responsibility (vet bills, food, ect) you could always put away a little bit of money every week in a pet fund.

Good luck! I had to beg my boyfriend to adopt Moosey and now he loves her!

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Before I adopted Luna, my father claimed to be allergic to cats. I don't live with my father year-round, only visit for several weeks during the summer. Anyway, after getting Luna, it turned out to be me, and not my father, who was in fact allergic to her. I was very stressed out and upset for a few weeks while I battled hay-fever and an asthma flare-up. Thankfully, as I suspected, it all cleared up and I have developed an quasi-immunity to Luna's dander. I also purchased a True Hepa filter for my bedroom, which I probably should have had anyway, being an asthmatic. I am fine now. If anything, I have a very mild allergy to her, but nothing like it was when I first got her. I think with allergies it depends on how severe your allergies are. If you are the type of person who can walk into a home and can tell a cat lives there because your allergies start to act up, I would think twice. I have never experienced such a reaction to other people's cats. I actually might be allergic to Luna's litter...I'm not even sure to be honest. It's not like I bury my head in her fur and then sneeze or experience a skin reaction of any sort. There is not that kind of direct connection. Good luck!

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Dear all,
Thank you so much for the many encouraging words and advice. I am checking various sources of information now about proper caring for cats and am hoping that we would be able to adopt the cat at the end.
She is a 13.5 years old cat and I really would love for her to have a nice home for the years that she could be around us.
My husband will probably be able to take care of allergies with ITD medications. And as many of you mention, he might become immune to our cat's dander (just hoping to call her our cat), plus the coat of this tabby is so short.
He is much more worried about emotional distress, since the kitty is not a young one. He really loves animals and even at this moment he is thinking how we would love the cat and we will all get really attached to her and may be in the not so distant future (5-8 years down the road, or even less) she might no longer be with us - so he is really anxious about losing somebody he loves.
I have found in our town quite a few places/animal hospitals where they also offer support when a beloved pet is lost. Yes, our pets do become our family and such moment is difficult (we used to have a small fish that we loved). To me, all the wonderful and funny moments before that could help us cope with such a loss.
I hope I could persuade him to think more about today and the near future and enjoy having a new companion in our family rather than to think about the unclear distant future.

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Dear all,
Thank you so much for the many encouraging words and advice. I am checking various sources of information now about proper caring for cats and am hoping that we would be able to adopt the cat at the end.
She is a 13.5 years old cat and I really would love for her to have a nice home for the years that she could be around us.
My husband will probably be able to take care of allergies with ITD medications. And as many of you mention, he might become immune to our cat's dander (just hoping to call her our cat), plus the coat of this tabby is so short.
He is much more worried about emotional distress, since the kitty is not a young one. He really loves animals and even at this moment he is thinking how we would love the cat and we will all get really attached to her and may be in the not so distant future (5-8 years down the road, or even less) she might no longer be with us - so he is really anxious about losing somebody he loves.
I have found in our town quite a few places/animal hospitals where they also offer support when a beloved pet is lost. Yes, our pets do become our family and such moment is difficult (we used to have a small fish that we loved). To me, all the wonderful and funny moments before that could help us cope with such a loss.
I hope I could persuade him to think more about today and the near future and enjoy having a new companion in our family rather than to think about the unclear distant future.

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I have adopted many, many old kitties in the past. Sam was 12 - had him 4.5 wonderful years. Winnie was 15 - had her only 9 months and on and on.... All my friends and neighbors think I am nuts to adopt old cats just to have them die on me so I will tell you what I tell them: Its NOT about me, it's about THEM. It's about their quality of life for the remaining years they have left after they've been thrown away. It's about them not lingering in a shelter because they are "too old", or not cute enough. Its about love and affection for them....... and from them.

Go ahead, take the plunge. It will be the most meaningful years of that cat's (and dare I say your) life.

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Aww, you are so kind wanting to adopt an older kitty! I say go for it. Seems most of the problems (allergy concerns, care, etc.) are mostly dealt with. I think she still has a lot of love to give. I had a cat that lived to be 22 years old and she was healthy and in pretty good shape just until the very end. Hopefully your kitty will be with your family for a long time.
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post #10 of 13 (permalink) Old 01-27-2013, 09:20 AM
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Hi and How to make a decision to adopt a cat?

We adopted an older cat and had her for 3.5 years. Her loss was devastating but I would never regret having her. Those years with her were all joy. The end is sad but part of your journey together.

As for allergies I would recommend not letting her in your bedroom and teaching her certain spaces are off limits so your husband isn't always emmersed in her dander. Wood floors help a lot too and just keeping on top of dusting, sweeping and vacuuming. My husband won't take meds but we live harmoniously despite the allergies


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