Originally Posted by TrinityQuiet
...Seated next to me was another couple. They had a long haired white cat named, of course, Princess. She had a rhinestone collar on. Whereas my Rotten one was as close to me as I could get her, their Princess was in a carrier on the floor, half under the bench. They looked bored and disgusted that they had to be there for her. Princess was crying, she had no blanket or anything between her and the carrier floor. It was dirty. They talked between themselves on the bench, and Princess may have not existed at all. They were relieved when the vet finally took their squalling cat out of hearing range. And...Princess didn't cry to her humans, she just cried in general. Every cat I've known cried to their humans, because they trust their human to keep them safe.?
I've had some more time to think about this and I'd like to make a couple points. Of course, I wasn't there and I know a lot gets lost putting it into words, but the points that crystallized in my mind while thinking about this are:
1) we don't know what these people were thinking about their cat or what their attitude toward her was. The descriptions here of their thoughts and feelings are simply those imputed based on one person's interpretation of their actions and their demeanor. They did have their cat at a vet's office which at least suggests a certain level of reasonable and ordinary care.
2) we don't know either what the cat's thoughts and feelings were. Cats have a way of coming up with the most mournful and heart-rending sounds, but that doesn't mean a thing. A cat that sounds to a human like it's "crying" is just vocalizing. Perhaps the reason these people didn't pay any attention is because they knew that's what how their cat normally vocalized and so the cat's "crying" to them was just normal. Again this is imputing some meaning to a situation that we just can't be sure was really there.
3) saying that the cat just cried "in general" but wasn't crying to her humans, implying a lack of a bond between those people and the cat isn't something that can be inferred. Go back to #1 and #2. Rocket does a whole heck of a lot of this "crying in general" but that's just the way he is, and it doesn't mean a thing about our relationship.
It may very well be that Trinity read the situation correctly; I wasn't there. I just wanted to point out the limitations in reading something into a situation that might not at all be there. Without knowing the people and the cat involved, without talking to them to find out what was going on and what was going through their minds, there's no way of knowing, and therefore we really can't condemn them for some wrong we have no way of proving.