The soft paws are definitely getting dremeled in the future before application.... she got herself caught in a quilt a little bit ago, and we had to wrangle the angry kitten and cut the thread tangled around her nail to get her free. I managed to get her to hold still long enough afterwards for me to dremel a bit of the edge off the "cuff" of the caps (they have a lower cuff, but since she's a baby, I had to trim them down a bit, and it removed the cuff part), but I would feel better with a more tapered edge, and I don't feel safe doing more with the dremel on the cat's nails for fear of nicking one of her toes or her actual nail. I plan on dremeling and replacing any that fall off within the next week, and then (or earlier if she gets caught on anything else), snip the tips off any that are still present to encourage them to fall off so I can replace them with more thoroughly dremeled ones. I don't think I have enough caps to replace them all right now, have more coming in, but will have to wait for them to arrive. I'm hoping I can get this worked out, as they really seemed like the best solution for our situation, and I'm not really sure what else to try.
P has been going out on a leash since she was around 8 weeks old, intially just dragging the leash in our yard so I could catch her if she tried to run, then I would pick it up and encourage her to walk with me for short distances, and in the last couple weeks, I've started progressing to longer distances and then actual walks out of the yard. I think it helps that she's pretty attached to my dachshund, Annie, and seems more at ease with another critter along for the walk.
We have a bungee style leash (from a ferret leash/harness set), I plan on getting another bigger size one for her eventually, as it does help if something startles her and she decides to try and make a run for it (not too common at this point, but slamming the end of the lead would no doubt frighten her more). I wouldn't feel comfortable with a flexi on our walks, but that is a great idea for in the yard, we'll give it a try.
At present, I'm carrying P outside, then putting her down, and she always gets her harness put on before we go out the door. I'm hoping that because this is the way it's always done, she won't be thinking she can just take herself out
I will likely be acquiring a welded wire dog kennel in the semi-near future, and I've toyed with the idea of letting her go out in that sometimes too, since it will be secure. We'll see what happens, and in the meantime, continue sharpening her leash skills