Re: considering a second cat, would like some advice.
You're absolutely right Leslie, the dynamics almost always change. Sometimes for the good, sometimes worse, sometimes they go back to normal after a few weeks or months, sometimes never. You just don't know. Which is why I say don't do it for the cat, only do it for you....because you need to be accepting and willing to deal with the consequences.
When I brought Holly home (at 12 weeks), she and Kobi bonded almost instantly....within 2 days they were snuggling and there was no change in Kobi's personality/attitude towards me at all. On the other hand, Maggie doesn't take well to interlopers at all. She would never be aggressive, but she spent a good part of the first few weeks watching life go by from high places. Anytime she spotted Holly she'd hiss and go the other way. Eventually it got to the point where she'd only hiss if Holly got into her personal space. Finally 6 months later she stopped hissing at her. It's over 2 years now and in the long run, the change has been for the good. They now play together and Maggie will even let Holly sleep near her (not cuddle, but within a few inches). Holly is very slowly working on Maggie and I have no doubt that they will eventually cuddle. This is a wonderful change in Maggie, who for her first 10 years would barely let me pet her (she would duck and run). And Maggie is much more lovey with me. So it's taken a long time, but I do attribute many of the changes in Maggie as being due to having Holly here and they're good ones.
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Holly, Misty & their friend, Jake, the dog.
Onyx, Callie May, Maggie & Kobi forever in my heart.
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