Is it time to throw in the towel? Any advice would be great!
Okay, once again back to my Bella and Brandy problems.
A few members on here have probably read my long drawn out posts of these two and their interactions.
Long story short:
Brandy is a year and a half old now and Bella is 9 months. I had no problem being a one-cat family for a while, but I came in a situation were I rescued an injured kitten (Bella) with a big gash in her chest. We got her vet care, shots, and eventually spaying to find her a home. We fell in love and decided to keep her.
I've had Bella since September (can't remember exact date), and kept her separate from Brandy for a while via Vet's instructions. I knew nothing about "cat introduction" until Brandy went psycho on Bella and bit my foot which brought me here.
I've learned tons since starting the forum and hope to learn more.
I am giving Brandy Composure Liquid currently and using Feliway, and using Rescue Remedy for a time. She has CALMED down in a lot of ways. Almost to the point of seeming indifferent towards Bella through the gates. They got in a huge fight in December after Bella got spayed and I gave them a time off. On January 4th, I kept them separated by baby gates. Trust me, it's a hassle but I love them and wish to help. Perhaps I'm nuts on taking so long.
At night, Brandy is put in my bedroom to go to sleep, and during the day Bella is locked away in the baby gate so they can interact. That way Bella can get out and run around. Both cats seem fine with this arrangement. Bella actually LOVES to go to "bed" and will run in her room in the mornings because both of them know the rotuine. I was going to start giving them time to ineract in April, because I figured 3 months was long enough separated by baby gates.
Brandy snuck out of the bedroom last night and was wandering around and found Bella. They got in a fight, not a rip you a part I'm going to kill you fight (no scratched or fur pulled out).
The advice I need is: Where now? Do I start BACK over from the beginning, or should I move forward like nothing happen? Has anyone ever had this many issues? Or should I just accept the fact that Brandy will never accept Bella and keep them separated until I move out my of Father's house and let her stay here with him?
I'm very confused. It seems SO easy for many people that just keep them a part a few days, introduce, and move on. None of the tricks seem to be helping Brandy to cope. And it's sad because for all apparances she seems fine with Bella through the gate. No hissing, growling, or jumping at the gate now. ****, I saw them playing with a mouse through the gate the other day. I thought they were starting to like each other.