Originally Posted by Oriole
my apartment is only 35 square meters – is this not too little for 2 cats?
You can always increase usable square footage by adding vertical space, which cats love. Climbing shelves, cat trees, or just clearing off the top of some tall furniture for them is great.
Some other practical questions
? How do you deal with transporting 2 cats, e.g. to the vet? Take them one by one or get two containers? Or get one large container if they are friendly?
TWO. Stuffing 2 cats into one carrier is asking for a MAJOR mess, even if they love each other!
I understand that it might be easier for the old kitty to adapt to a kitten instead of a grown cat but in this case I am worried that I might not be able to be present often enough to teach the kitten good manners & behavior. So I am leaning towards a grown cat (probably not younger than 6 months). Right or wrong decision?
Here is the diary I did of my most recent intro -- baby Jonah to resident adult cats Lincoln and Calvin (plus 3 dogs):
I did the intro the same way when I brought Calvin (age 2 at the time) into the house with resident Lincoln (5 at the time). Slow and steady wins the race. I would get a neutered male, NOT a female. N. males tend to be mellower and more willing to put up w/ stuff from females.
Safest bet is to go to a no-kill shelter that either fosters the cats out in homes or allows some contact between them at the shelter. That way the shelter will be able to tell you which cats are most mellow and easygoing w/ other cats.
Even if the cats are friendly, will they not get jealous if I spend more time with one than the other? As I said, my girl now loves to sleep in my lap and my bed but I’m not sure if I have enough room for two cats in my lap (they can definitely fit on the bed
). Also I do love her cuddliness now but won’ t it disappear after she has her own playmate and no longer considers me interesting…?
Of course you have room for 2 in your lap. It's not pretty, but it works.
That said, they usually take turns in my household. If you do the slow and easy intro, you'll be spending time w/ the new cat separately for a while, which is best. That way, when you're out in the main part of the house, you will be 100% the resident cat's, and by the time she realizes she has competition she'll love her new friend.
It's VERY doubtful that your current kitty will stop wanting to cuddle, etc., but you may find that some things DO change. She may be extremely clingy now, but if that's b/c she's desperate for contact after being alone all day long, do you really want to keep that? I know you don't.
She'll still love you, but she's going to have someone else to love, too. It's all good.