Cat drama in my house!
Just over a month ago I adopted Gaston from another family. My bf REALLY wanted to take him, I gave in but I did say ONLY if he got along with Peppina, my female kitten. The first thing we had to do is have him neutered as he was destroying the house! He seemed ok, was slowly calming down, etc. But now I find that there is just too much competition between him and Peppina, and since he is 5 kilos and Peppina is only 2.5, it's not really a fair fight!
I have been watching Peppina become more and more upset, she was always such a relaxed, easy going kitty. Now she is jumpy and nervous. I keep them mostly separated now and only let them together when I can supervise. Sometimes they play, sometimes it gets very rough. And Peppina has been having jumpy fear responses to every tiny thing!
She is not spayed yet, she is currently taking medication for Urinary stones and I think I have to wait until that is sorted out before spaying. I don't know if that would help with her nerves. The thing is that Gaston is becoming attached to me, he wants to sit with me and purr, etc. It makes Peppina jealous, if she sees, but also I think if I can't keep him, the longer I have him, the more upsetting it will be for him to move again.
There were other families that also wanted Gaston when we took him, the previous owner, who was a friend of my bf's sister really wanted US to take him. He has received good care and love here, but the competition with my little girl is upsetting me and her. I feel bad to give him back, he is a really nice cat, but I feel so awful seeing how upset Peppina is! My sister back home has one male and two females and she tells me the male, even though neutered, is always dominating and disturbing the females.
I feel like it's *possible* that they will get along in another few months, but probable that they wont. I think if there is another family for him, it would be better for everyone that he goes there. I just worry that he will be sad and not get as good care as he does here.
Anyone experienced with this at all? Thanks!