Join Date: May 2008
Location: St. Albert, AB, Canada
This sounds a lot like my house some days. *sigh*
Muffin has been a gigantic pain in the bum for the past few months (although he's settled a bit this past week, so *fingers crossed* and *knock on wood* that he's FINALLY getting out of this phase).
I've found it to be a sort of phase, at least for my boys. Periodically one of them (never both together 'cause then they could wrestle each other all they wanted) just seems to go a little stir crazy. Always in the winter. Lots of extra exercise, family treat time, and locking them up when we can't supervise seems to deal with things until they get past it.
We bought Muffin an automatic laser pointer and I LOVE that stupid thing. He can run his crazies out while I make dinner, or while my SO plays video games, or cleans, ect. And it doesn't bug the other cats. Wonderful.
The treats together help because it's very easy for people to slip into a habit of only giving negative reactions to the misbehaving kitty...but that makes things worse. I know I've mentioned that before, and it's very very true. If I'm having a bad week and I only yell at Muffin and he never gets to cuddle because I'm not home, or mad, or w/e he gets so much worse! I have to make a concerted effort to call him over when he's good and give him the extra love time he needs.
The treats also help, because they all get them together and they're practicing self control, listening to me, and they get good things. It helps a lot when they're especially crazy.
Separating them when you aren't home is also important, it just isn't fair to Mowmow to have Book beating him up all day. It sounds like you've got this one under control.
...Also, the sort of behavior you're describing used to be Torri to a 'T'. Now, due to treat times, and exercise, ect she will walk around and even whack Muffin on the head sometimes...but she still feels safest snuggled up to her Daddy when she's out in the house. You're definitely right to want to nip it in the bud.
IMO, though, completely separating them may actually make it worse...it's hard to say. But definitely when you aren't there.