somebody please help me :( (possible neglect)
im having a really hard time finding anything online that may help me, and i dont know where this forum stands on legal issues but please lend me a minute of your time.
i have a 9 year old cat named Milo, who hasnt lived with me since i moved out 5 years ago. she stays at my dads house. i wasn't able to bring her to my boyfriends house, despite my pleading but my dad said no, and i let it slide because his health and house werent so poor back then. i thought she'd be ok.
recently my father was in the hospital for a few days undergoing open heart surgery so i had stopped by to feed and water her and was appauled at what i saw. Milo has this "rodent ulcer" condition that always recurrs. but this time (and once before 6 months back) i wanted to die because my poor baby girls mouth and lip was swollen that it was upturning her nose, oozing brown and green pus, drooling all over herself staining her white chest and the poor thing cant even keep her tongue in her mouth, it just hangs there allowing her drool to seep all over her.
i immediately packed her up and brought her to my house and took her to the vet the very next day. she was prescribed ovaban, half a 20mg pill twice a week. ive given her the medicine 3 times and its finally starting to clear up.
i gave her a bath and the amount of grime that came off her was disgusting. my dads house is in despair. filthy is an understatement. he has a lot of health and mental health problems (im not excusing him, just making a statement). i clipped her nails because of how long they were - starting to curl and she couldn't even walk with flat paws. theres still dirt between her toes that i cant get out.
i dont know what to do. i cannot give her back. my dad is extremely angry about this and im preparing myself for some sort of legal action to be taken against me.
now heres my real problem:
his name is on the account at the vets office (and i added mine last week), and yes, he did buy her and pay for her food (which is eaten off a dirty plate with dried crusted food, btw, i was outraged), and does get her yearly shots AND has treated her for this "ulcer condition" a few times but he always lets it get so bad, but insists it just "gets like that overnight" which i know is wrong. i dont know what to do because its clear that he has had involvement in the cat but he probably wouldnt have done anything if i didnt come along this time. the infection could have gone to her brain and killed her. i work frequently and dont have a car so i never would have known as i dont visit much.
does anyone know what i can do? stupid me didnt take pictures of her at her worst, but i do have some pictures, and could easily get pictures of the deplorable condition of his house.
i forgot to mention that we adopted milo, with a brother, otis, who died when he was only four because he had become septic resulting from a urinary blockage, crystals. otis died on the THIRD TIME this happened because my dad didnt wanna spend money on the necessary food because of the cost. the last time around, there was nothing we could do (i was only 17 at the time and had no job)... my poor beautiful boy passed away and spent the last hours of his life howling in agonizing pain. but alas, thered be no way for me to prove that my dad already has a history of not taking necessary precautions towards animal health.
i want to register milo personally in my state (NJ), but i dont know if that would even help me keep her if push comes to shove. i feel that if i give her back, i may as well be killing her myself. hes extremely upset that i stole "his" cat, when in fact he got her and her brother for me when my first kitty shadow passed away, but being 13 at the time i clearly wasn't the one paying for her.
does anyone have any advice? please. im so stressed and upset, and just wanna help my kitty. she doesnt even get treats or playtime at his house. she even grew a newfound love for catnip. its clear that my dad loves her, but cant take care of himself, let alone her (hence his heart problems).
if anyone can offer any advice at all id be very grateful.
Last edited by marie73; 03-13-2015 at 01:13 PM.