Originally Posted by ForJazz
I really don't mean to be nosy, but sounds like you're really scraping for money right now...living from paycheck to paycheck. And to be quite honest, that's not the best environment to bring ANOTHER kitty into...especially if one of your cats is going to cost hundreds of dollars. And sneaking around is never a good sign...so perhaps you should just think about it in the sense that everything happens for a reason. I'm not really clear on your living situation -- it sounds like you're living with your parents, but it also sounds like you have an apartment in the city? I guess I'm just curious as to how much say your dad actually has here. If you're living in an apartment, then go ahead and get Mr. Halifax. But he'll be perfectly happy alone, so don't worry about a playmate for him. If this is your parents house that you are living in, though...then it really should be their call.
I'll try to answer all the questions =P
Nah - I'm not living from paycheck to paycheck. I DO have quite a bit of money stashed away - in my savings - and I refuse to touch it until an emergency. The only reason I am not buying them right now is because my fiance is the one who wants to buy them for my birthday (and he needs to get the money for them). With the price of the Himmie - the price of his neautering - the price of the adoption - the food - the toys - the collars - the ID tags can all be bought easily once he gets paid - he's making good money - but since he works for the Government... he hasn't gotten paid for like... a month! He has savings too - but he's not touching it either.
Don't worry though - we can afford them - it's just the initial costs... which rounds up to like 600 dollars (if not more) - kind of a lot to start out with. The funny thing is - that was how much one cat was going to cost us... for just the cat itself! Those ragdolls are so cute... but I just couldn't see spending that kinda money for the cat all by itself. Even though we were seriously considering getting him... *whine* =P I just happened to see that little Himmie and all rational thought went away.
Me and the fiance figured it out though - he is going to talk to his mother about keeping one of the kitties with him at his house for now. The playmate is his idea - and he wanted a kitty of his own - so I guess it should stay with him anyway.
Our situation is pretty much this - I live with my parents - he lives with his - we are moving out in August.
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I hope this next section isn't too personal to have in the general section rather than the "What the owners are like" (can't remember the name) section =/ This is what home sweet home is like for me:
I know that sneaking around is never good - but it's kinda hard to be very honest when you've got a dad like mine. If it were up to him - I would never leave the house and cook and clean for him for the rest of my days. While I do love my father, he is a bit of a control freak and doesn't put much worth on what women say anyway (just like his dad before him). I've listened to countless stories from my grandma telling me just the same things that my mother and I have done countless times before - trickery to get things that we need or want. It's kinda hard to talk to a man who says "no" to just about everything you do - and will NOT change his mind... and if he is forced to... he gets... really... REALLY upset... so sometimes we have to throw up a 'surprise' for him - and if he gets mad just feign that we didn't know that he would be displeased. Situations range from vacations... dating... visiting relatives on my mother's side... working... going to school... and this is me at 21 years old!
As the only woman in my house (with my mother away... freakin' lucky gal) I am expected to cook and clean. Fortunatly my father has decided to pay me to clean (not cook though) and that's how I'm making my living at the moment. At any rate... if you knew what a neat freak he was - he's got control over a big portion of my life at the moment... doh... at least I'm getting paid... thank goodness hehe!
I've known it was his call - and I'll do my best to honor what my father has said. In the end I really shouldn't have taken that person's advice - no matter how noble it sounded. I know who my father is - and how he acts - and I should have known better than to tip him off. I know I am my father's daughter and he would do just about anything for me... but it's always going to be a thing where I don't know what I want - I can't chose who I want - and I'll be nothing more than a burden in my house as a woman just is suposed to cook and clean - someone who doesn't bring home the money - until I leave here.
God... I am so excited about leaving...
Sorry if I went to far with my description of my home life - it's kinda hard not to talk about those things when it's such a big part of what makes home... well... home.
I'll try to leave less... umm... weird posts from now on ^_^ and I'll get back to you guys and tell you what happens... if we don't get the second baby... I won't die or anything... no matter how much I wanted him... but I will be getting Mr. Halifax... since he just mentioned strays - and not purebreeds. He actually seemed to like the idea of getting a fluffy cat at some point... so... hopefully he won't be too mad.