Hi, hopefully someone here can give me some advice. We have a female cat that's going on 4 years old. She is spayed. She HATES women and kids. She hisses at any woman that comes over. It doesn't matter if you're 10, 30, or 60 years old. You WILL get hissed at. She hides in our bedroom when kids are around. We have tried things such as giving her a stern "NO" when she's hissed. She's even gotten put in the bedroom with the door shut for 20 min. or what have you. She hates that. when we have had women over she will sit across from them on the floor and just stare them down. It's almost freaky! This usually happens after getting scolded for hissing.
This cat loves the guys. She's their best friend. She's a 'Daddy's girl'. She follows my husband everywhere he goes, she's always with him. When we're watching tv, he's who she goes to for attention. I'm only good for her when he's not around. LOL!
She doesn't have as much of a problem with boys (children) as she does the girls. Other than this hissing and growling problem she has she is THE perfect cat. No lie. She doesn't jump on the counters or dressers. I have never known a cat that's been so well behaved than she is.
At her last checkup the vet said she's healthy. We've never brought this problem up to the vet cause even though she's had this problem with women and kids since we've had her, it hasn't been to this degree. The only thing we can think of is it's her personality. Just like not all humans like each other.
We want to have kids one day and getting rid of her is the LAST thing we want to do, but we also can't risk her possibly biting a kid. You know how kids are with animals, pulling tails, ears, carrying by the neck. Our other cat, who's almost 3 years old, you can do whatever you want to him and he just takes it. He actually will go right to the kids and play with them, letting them do what they want. And he's never grown up with kids. He loves it when kids come over. LOL! Yes, the male cat is neutered in case you're thinking that could be part of the problem.
Anyway, my husband said it'd be like giving up a kid if we had to give her up. Those 2 have such a bond that I know it'd break her little heart to leave her at a shelter, much less ours.
Giving her to a friend or family member isn't an option. You can suggest giving her to a 'male-only' household, but most bachelors have moms, sisters, 'girl'
friends, etc that come over once or twice. so they'd be having the same problem we are with her. If we HAD to get rid of her the shelter would probably put her down cause she'd be 'a danger' cause no one can really have her with that problem. As I said, this cat is perfect. Everything you'd want in a cat, with the exception of this hissing and growling.
Sorry this is so long, but I just wanted to lay everything I could think of out on the table so you guys can get a good idea what's going on. Thanks for any advice.