Many thanks Irish, I can sure use the "well wishes"!! Lol. Hippy, I have looked into the spirit essence package, but unfortunately my vet says that I cannot give the "victim" cat, China, anything like that because of her heart condition. I explained that they are all natural, but she said there is not enough information on them to determine if there is anything that could harm the cat since she has a problem. I am too chicken to try it out anyway, my son would be devasted if I hurt his "baby". He is eleven years old and extremely protective of these cats!!
Last night the 2 cats had 10 minutes in the same vicinity as each other with no closed doors, and no hissing or growling. Lots of tension, but I would consider it a good session. We separated them again after 10 minutes on a good note. I will try again tonight, and every night. We try to give each cat a lot of attention so they will not feel like they are being punished because of the confinement periods.