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post #1 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 10:46 PM Thread Starter
 
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hi had a cat called benji, and he was losing a lot of waight so i took him the vet and the vet said he had a hyper active throid so they said he needs these tablets to take but i would not give them to him as i did not want to put him threw that, then a few mouths later he died of heart failer and now i feel the blame for his life am i at fault?
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post #2 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 10:49 PM
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Why did you not give him the medicine? How old was he?
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he was 12 but i when i took him to the vet his heart rate was very fast
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post #4 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 10:57 PM
 
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If your vet wanted you to put your kitty on meds, then he/she should have explained what could potentially go wrong if you decided not to. Losing weight is never a good sign in cats, I hope you were properly educated before you decided not to put Benji on medication. I really don't know anything about his condition so I cannot help you there.

Was there a bad side effect to the medication that you were concerned about?
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post #5 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 10:59 PM Thread Starter
 
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the vet said the tablet might work or they might not its your choice
i feel i sould of tryed but i did not
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post #6 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 11:06 PM Thread Starter
 
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when first took him to the vet his heart rate was 240 beat to the min
he was in so much stress so i took him home and fed him when he wanted to be fed, so after about 7 mouths he stoped eating one day he stop eating the following day i took him the vet and on the way he dyed
im just wondering if i put him on the tabets would he still be hear
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You did what you thought best and it's over now. I'm sure Benji knew that you only wanted what would make him happiest.
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post #8 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 11:16 PM
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Sharon, I'm very sorry for you that your kitty died. You shouldn't dwell on the why or the what-ifs. Just mourn him and go on from here. Maybe you'd like to post a remembrance of him in the Rainbow Bridge section?
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post #9 of 33 (permalink) Old 05-05-2005, 11:23 PM
 
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sharon, it's okay. You did what you could do at the time. We do what we can with what we have. It's okay, you did your best.

I am currently feeding my cat through a tube. The doctors told me if I didn't, she would die. Now after 3.5 weeks of this, and lots of $$$, I am not sure if this was the best choice. There are days she looks so sad, and I often wonder if I should have just put her to sleep then... that maybe it is just her time, and who I am to interfere. It's so hard to make these kinds of decisions, whether we should go through with treatment or not. We are not God, and we do the best we can with what we have.

Please just forgive yourself. Your kitty was sick. You took her to the vet. You did what you could, and I'm sure kitty was grateful.

You were a good Mommy... your kitty got sick, and you weren't the blame for that.
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We do what we think best at the time. I'm so sorry Benji is gone. Don't dwell on "what ifs." Think of the good times, and the love you shared. God bless.




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