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post #1 of 5 (permalink) Old 11-18-2005, 07:05 AM Thread Starter
 
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Hi all, I hope you can spare a minute or two to read this and let me have your comments and ideas.

A year ago I adopted two sisters from the Cat Protection League, Maisy Mouse (hence my username) and Slinky Malinky. Sadly Slink was run over and killed last November. I was devastated but think that because she was mostly black that the driver simply didn't see her in the dark.

The following February Tabatha came to stay with us too. Maisy is a very timid little cat, a real home lover and my own personal stalker. She was obviously not at all pleased with the interloper and made Tabatha's life quite difficult for a few weeks. Now, however, they get along really well.

On Monday we were joined by Chester who happens to be Tabatha's nephew (long story - for another time). I fully expected some fallout for a while but they girls have totally foxed me.

Maisy has just accepted (albeit begrudgingly) that the little dude is there to stay. She obviously remembers Tabatha's arrival and is just getting on with it - OK, so she does hiss at him if he gets too close. Tabatha (or Princess Tabatha as I call her) on the other hand has thrown a complete fit.

On day one she refused to come down stairs and seemed to be frightened of the little dude. On day two I refused to take her breakfast and tea upstairs to her so she had to come down. She actually stalks Chester and takes swipes at him while growling and spitting at him. The poor little mite gets no peace at all. I had been keeping them all indoors (I have a neighbour who lets them in before dark every day - I don't want Tabatha getting run over too) and she noticed that Tabatha is bad tempered too. Yesterday, however, I gave in and let Tabatha out on the promise that she came home because I love her very much! The little beggar didn't return until way after dark though, I was worried sick!

Today I have kept them all in again but Tabatha is back to stalking Chester and swiping at him. Is this a case of just waiting things out or does anyone have any suggestions as to things that I can do to ease the war that is going on? Chester, by the way, is also completely black and a really chilled out, playful little dude. He has a delightful personality and it's dreadful to see him so wary and afraid all the time.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Maisy Mouse
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post #2 of 5 (permalink) Old 11-18-2005, 08:24 AM
 
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It doesn't sound like you've had Chester for very long, so I think you just need to wait it out. It can take some cats a month or so to get used to having a new cat in the house. Just let them work it out on their own, unless Tabatha is actively stalking and attacking Chester, then keep those two seperated for awhile.

There are lots of threads around here about others expierences with introductions, so perhaps search around a little bit as well!
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post #3 of 5 (permalink) Old 11-18-2005, 08:46 AM Thread Starter
 
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Many thanks - it was only after I'd posted that I wandered a little further around the site and spotted that I was repeating a number of other threads. Sorry about that!

Thanks for replying anyway. I think you are right, but I wanted to double check there was nothing else that I ought to be doing.
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post #4 of 5 (permalink) Old 11-18-2005, 07:42 PM
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I have had my new kitty for nearly 3 months now and they are still adjusting to each other. Read up on introductions and give it time.
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post #5 of 5 (permalink) Old 11-19-2005, 12:01 PM
 
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Yup, sounds normal to me. Minnie and Tink loved each other after a day of adjusting...when Jazmine came, they took almost two months to fully accept her. I think when you already have two, they have a strong bond and that makes the transition harder.

Also, I have all girls and my sister has a boy -- when she brings him over (or he stays to visit, like now) my girls take only a day to get used to him, even the first time they saw him. I really think it's because of the male/female thing...they're more interested in him than threatened! So that might have helped your first transition as well.
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