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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 09-16-2007, 05:31 PM Thread Starter
 
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Stopping a cat being timid..

We have 2 cats 1 black long haired male and 1 tortoise shell female.

we did have another ginger kitten who was introduced when the other cats were 1 year old (they are currently 2.5 years old).

The ginger cat would constantly pick on the female cat.
Sadly the ginger one was hit by a car and killed just before his 1st birthday (almost a year ago now)

Missy, the female now seems to be very timid (she wasn't before the little ginger kitten was introduced).
she will occassionally approach us and seem soppy and in need of a fuss, but when we go to stroke her she seems very nervous. and pulls away slightly.

Is there any way you can convince female cats that they are safe with us?
I would love her to be as cuddly and affectionate as our black long haired cat.
any advice would be appreciated.

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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 09-16-2007, 05:45 PM
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Just give her lots of gentle love and a quiet safe place for affection. You might also want to try doing this without the other cat in the room. I assume he is the more dominant and she may not want to risk ticking him off by getting attention from you.

My Maggie has always been rather timid about getting affection, it's only in the last couple years that she's really started seeking out attention..and she's almost 11. So there's hope


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Cleo has always been skittish and has never really liked being touched too much. She's getting better. It's a matter of trust and time.

Cinderella has never been a "lap" kitty, but loves to be brushed and petted.

Every cat is different. Even with my new kitties, Cali is a cuddle-bug and lap kitty, and Charlee is more like Cleo.

Just give her more time and follow Doodlebug's advice.

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post #4 of 6 (permalink) Old 09-17-2007, 07:47 AM
 
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Patience and time... keep working with her, but do not "overwork" her. Be very gentle, no sudden moves and get down to her level... meaning, lie down on the floor and be at her level so you are not intimidating to her. There is no fast solution... it's just a matter of time. Good luck!!
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post #5 of 6 (permalink) Old 09-19-2007, 09:55 AM
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Reminds me of my tortie, even though I am not sure what “soppy and in need of a fuss” means . She came from a multicat household where she couldn’t deal with other more aggressive kitties. That seems to be the case with most of the torties I have seen described at Petfinder.com too.

Sounds like you need to get her used to friendly contact. Try a brush like the “zoom groom”. My girl goes crazy for it. Move slowly but still try giving her a good firm scratch. To light a touch actually seems to bother my cat. Maybe it tickles. You can gage what she likes by putting the brush by her head and letter her press against it.

Also, lots and lots of verbal encouragement. I can’t stress that enough.

I think she'll come around. My cat, who used to run for cover at any strange sound in the house, has become quite confident and will actually run toward a noise, tail strait up and puffed.
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I agree about the Zoom Groom. The times in my bedroom when I brush Rookie with the Zoom Groom, with no TV on and no other movement in the room, are the nicest, sweetest times we have together.


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