I'm sorry, but I'm afraid this will be a long explanation. I truly appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and give any advice they have.
I have had both of my inside-only cats for approx. 7 years, and have moved twice before with no such issues. I always use Feliway plug-ins in the space before I bring the kitties over, and I do believe that helps. There didn't seem to be any problems until about 2 months ago when my male started peeing.
It was right in front of the window where the neighborhood cats hang out and preen for Oscar and Cleo. That evening on my back porch I smelled it...one of the outside cats had sprayed my deck or my flower bed or something. So, Oscar must have reacted to that. Great. I have tile floors so I just threw the rug away and well, that solved that b/c we all know cats prefer to pee (and puke) on carpet...why is that?
Then I went away on business for a week and left them in great hands w/ a fellow cat owner. But I've never been away that long before. And with everything in turmoil already, apparently they did not like that. I returned to find that in spite of having the cleanest litter box I've ever seen (thank you, Jenifer) Oscar repayed me by peeing on my rug in my kitchen. So, I threw that one away too. I now have no rugs and am down to just tile. I also shut my bedroom door when I leave so he will not defile the only carpeted room in the condo. (did I mention this condo is my 1st home purchase, so it is extra important for me to take care of it...you feel me?)
Now onto Cleo, who has always had a reputation as "the evil cat" and I'm afraid I cannot come to her defense on that one. Frankly, she is not polite to company; it's just plain embarassing. But she is as sweet as can be to me. But ever since the move she has really kicked her attitued up 10 notches...to a point where I'm starting to worry that she will really hurt someone and I will not be able to control the situation like I have been able to do in the past. Even though I clip her claws regularly, they are still weapons.
The last straw was last weekend when I had my 3-year-old nephew spend the night with me. He went into the other room to get one of his toys and Cleo must have been sitting next to them and she took a swipe at him. Luckily she didn't really get him, but I spent the rest of the evening promising him that he would never have to see the "mean kitty" (his words) again. It broke my heart. And I realized that I cannot trust her around him and that she very well could hurt him.
Also, Cleo has always been the dominant cat. Oscar is a Maine Coon so he is very mild-mannered, docile and would never hurt a fly. But lately I've noticed that she is just attacking him for no reason. As if she doesn't want her buddy around anymore. And I don't think he gets it, which just pisses her off even more. It gets VERY loud. Cleo is quite vocal when she's mad. I think her behavior is also spurring on some of Oscar's marking b/c maybe that's his way of asserting his authority in the new place??
Basically, after all of this (and I'm leaving some stuff out for a stab at brevity), I came to a difficult and unthinkable conclusion...that this is no longer the right home for Cleo. I truly believe she would be better off as an only cat, with a single person or couple with no children, and a lot more room (this move was a downsize to 850 sq ft). But how would I find someone patient enough to get past her tough exterior until she opened up to them...which I KNOW she would. She's a lover, but only I know that.
So, this post is my last ditch effort. I never thought I'd be considering giving up one of my cats, even if it meant she might be euthenized. But if she is a threat to others perhaps that is the right thing? On the other hand, I feel a responsibility to her b/c I have had her since she was 6 weeks old, she was my first cat, and I have such a bond with her that she doesn't have with other humans...or animals for that matter. I mean, she is 7 and still sucks on my t-shirts b/c she was weaned to early! It's a great feeling to be loved and needed like that. I'm her momma.
I'm so confused and in desperate need of advice. Again, if anyone actually read all that, thank you. I really did try to keep it short.