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post #1 of 3 (permalink) Old 03-25-2009, 02:05 PM Thread Starter
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I love kitty - but he REALLY loves me (sorry so long)

I hope I'm not asking another question that's already been answered (tried to do my research before hand). I have a question about my cat's behavior and how to control it before I tear out the rest of my hair! But first of all a little background:

Jack is a 1 1/2 year old neutered male. My boyfriend gave him to me as a gift - he could fit in the palm of my hand and was abandoned at the college he attends ( brownie points for BF!) . I introduced him to my Ferret, YuYu, which went perfect b/c they played and became good friends with no signs of aggression. When my boyfriend moved into my apartment he brought along his 4 year old neutered male Tyger. Things were good then. .........soon though Satan began to channel his evilness through Jack

When I am gone (my boyfriend witnessing all this) Jack sits in the window and cries waiting for my return. Runs through the apartment at top speed knocking glasses off the counter where they are drying, literally climbs the door frame of the bedroom (latches his claws into the paint to gain height), knocks over the food and water dishes (poor carpet), drags YuYu around by her neck!, visciously attacks Tyger (who doesn't fight back at all), and claws the carpet (he has a cat tower/scratching post).

When I return he then follows me around the house and wont give me 2 minutes peace and quiet - even though I take over and hour to play with him. Jack literally stays within 1 foot of me no matter where I go. Visits the "ladies room" and he yells and strips paint from the door. If my boyfriend and I are snuggling on the bed he has to be between us. He runs back and forth in short bursts doing a quick "meow" - every lap he makes brings him closer and closer until one night his back paw actually scratched my nose!!

As for Jack's relationship with my boyfriend - NEUTRAL! The typical "oh your feeding me? good. I'm going to eat then resume my position in the window. You want to play? Nah not today Human. I rather play with Mom."

I try "content-um" drops from petco that is supposed to make him feel like he has a full belly - but I feel bad for drugging the cat! We have tried time outs in the bathroom by himself, spraying with water (which I know isn't recommended), sedative drops, feeding before bed to make him sleepy, and swatting the end of his nose (also i know not recommended)

I'm at my wits end! Will he grow out of this? I'm in an apartment (he refuses to wear a harness so he can go outside) and fear the noise he makes might get me evicted. I love him very much and dont want to give him away!! What can I do?

Again sorry so long.
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Re: I love kitty - but he REALLY loves me (sorry so long)

He may grow out of it- he's still quite young. However, my cat Nito is similarly obsessively in love with me. He channels his frustration when I'm gone through wailing, thankfully not destruction. Someone will come along soon enough with some good advice for you, I am sure of it!
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Welcome, and I wish I had more to offer...

I had a very needy cat. Mister was a very good cat, but he took up thumb-sucking when he was about 12-14 wks old. Sucking MY thumb, that is! I learned to keep my hands away from him and sleep with them covered or I could wake up to him latched onto my thumb. In times of stress, I could give him my thumb and it would calm him down, so it was a neat trick to use at the vet's office.

We lost Mister only days after we moved 3000 miles across the country. He was missing for 29 days. After we were reunited with him and he recovered physically from his lost-time, he became obsessive over me. More than just wanting to suck my thumb, he had to be WITH me; in the same room, follow me all over the house and if I sat down he had to be touching me. He wasn't a loud cat, but the constant touching was driving me mad. Especially at dinner time because he would sit in the chair next to me and lean his body against my arm. I just needed some space. Pushing him down only worked for a short bit and then he was back on me again. Granted, he always "asked" to be with me, he never just jumped up and pushed the issue, but I would have preferred if he weren't so clingy. I had to be considerate about his time when he was missing and how that affected him. He lived for 6 more years after we recovered him and his behavior (needy towards me) never changed or slacked off.

Sometimes we have to reassure them the best we can and just accept the behavior. Your cat is still young and there is a much better chance that he will grow out of this behavior when he grows more mature with age.

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