Sorry if I jump right in without all the proper introduction, but I'm really very concerned and hoping -praying- someone has an answer. Everything else has failed so far.
We have three male cats. The oldest is 6; he was neutered a little late in life by the Humane Society, around age 3, but has had no issues. The youngest was also neutered at the Humane Society, around 6 months. No issues. The middle was neutered around a year or so, and is a source of immense concern.
This is gonna be a little long.
The first visit I brought him in his carrier, sat him on the floor in the lobby between my legs while I filled out the paperwork. Stupid Humane Society doesn't have seperated lobbies and someone's uncontrollable dog landed in my lap. The kitten in the carrier was scared so bad the carrier jumped across the floor. When his time came to go to the back, he was too frightened to come out of his carrier.
Fast forward a week or so. Try 2. This time one of us sat in the car while the other waited inside. When his turn came, we covered his carrier with a blanket and took him straight to the back. The attending vet was a bit rough. I tried to take the cat out of the carrier, but she snagged the carrier from me and said "I'll do it!" and proceeded to reach for him. She snagged him by the scruff of the neck and was gone. I hesistated but figured he was already out of the bag, should be upfrom there.
Wrong. Hours later they call to advise he's hissing in the kennel and no one can get him out. I said can't you tranq him and just get this over with, he's terrified. No. Come get him.
So I do.
The bring him in a freakin' cardboard box. His soft carrier opens all the way from the top to front, but they chose to put him in a box. He is yowling and carrying on. They drop him on the table. I demand to speak with their supervisor. The staff is curt, refuse to find a supervisor or vet, and I leave with my cat. As soon as I got him to the car, I said his name and stuck my hand over an air hole for the scent. He immediately began mewing and I held him on my lap the ride home (passenger side).
A few weeks go by. He's extremely aggitated. We hope it'll pass.
He still needs fixed.
Getting him to the new vet office requires a lot of patience, cooing, and finally trapping into the carrier. He hisses at the new vet; she specializes in ferals and isn't taken back. She has to use cat gloves, net and instantly tranq him. We have her do all shots, nail clippings etc while he's out. He has not been back to the vet since.
Fast fwd over a year later. He is still a walking mess. He has been perfectly fine with the household people and the other cats. Problems begin when company comes over. It can be one or more people, people he already knows and had previously developed postive relationship with - but he begins hissing at them. Sometimes small swipes. The problem is, he approaches them -- even if they proceed to ignore him, he presses forward, ears back, yowling and hissing and swipes. He draws blood. Men, women, doesn't matter. Anyone.
Up to this point, a household person could simply say his name in a reprimanding tone or clap hands together. Sometimes just entering the room with him would send him to his polite corner or more often -- up to the legs of a household person. Up to this point, he would just want attention from a household person, proceed to roll on his back and do cute things to get a tummy rub.
I've sought other advice, from ignoring him or having just one guest gently touch a safe spot for him then stop before he starts hissing.
Until this week. Nothing has changed, but now when company comes over he is far more assertive with them. And saying his name, entering the room, hand clapping does nothing. Tonight, he began hissing at company staying over. I said his name and he began a deep horrible growl and began a crouch like he was gonna spring at me. The guests backed into the other room and cat continued to approach me very unabashed, growling.
He had never growled before.
I had to wait for him to wander into the room with the litterbox and shut the door.
Within minutes he begins the pitiful "I'm sorry" meow.
What do we do with him??
We have had him his whole life and before the neutering fiasco he was absolutely loving to everyone.
Had I known, I'd rather steam clean carpet every night than be faced with this horrible situation of feeling like there's no option but euthanizing. I can't believe there's no other option.
Someone please tell me there is an answer.