Hello, I am an 18 year old student seeking advice on my newly adopted female cat. Ever since I was born, me and my family have never even gone as far as considering having a pet to take care of until recently. Earlier this in January we (me and my family) moved household into a new area, from day one of moving into our new home we discovered a stray cat who would spend at least 80% of the day in our garden area. My mum being a kind and sympathetic woman felt sorry for the cat, so she started feeding it and inevitably the cat just couldn't stay away from us! After a family decision we all agreed we fell in love with her so we decided we were all happy to adopt the cat and start keeping her in the household with us! We've been in our new home for approximately half a year now with the cat being in our household company for at least 5 months. Since then she has been vaccinated and neutured.
There is no downside, myself and the family love her and enjoy her presence within the home. It's a new and everlasting experience for all of us, however I was looking for some advice and I was hoping this would be the place to get it! Firstly, I do understand that she's a fully grown stray and that meaning she's not as affectionate and loving as the usual cat. It took us weeks for us to finally be able to even make physical contact with her. The minor problem (if a problem) starts here, recently she has been spending all of her time away from the garden and the household. In the past few days I've been letting her out in the morning and she'd seem to disappear until as late as 1AM at night. Then finally when she comes inside, it only takes 5 minutes for her to run up to the door and start scratching (literally) to go out. I'm just slightly concerned here as she's made it quite clear that she just doesn't want to be in the home anymore. I don't know if this has any relation to it but in the living room we bought a new beanbag, if she walks into the living rooms she tends to spend a lot of her time sniffing its scent, then having a very cautious posture. We do not have a cat flap yet so she usually comes inside and outside of the house whenever we see she wants to leave/come in so we open the door for her. But we do keep her in at night, she's usually happy to be kept in.
Just to let you know, she's a beautiful black shorthair who really does enjoy her love when she's in the mood. We named her Ophelia as you can also see in my forum username haha!
I really do love her and I can tell she really does love me and my family despite her being a nervous and shy thing 90% of the time. As most of you cat lovers would understand, it really does break your heart to see your cat unhappy but it's also heartbreaking to have a cat that's never there beside you. I'd rather see my cat happy so once I see she wants to be outside and not inside, I let her out.
Oh and just a little piccy, this is Ophelia:
Thanks for reading and thanks in advance for any help I may receive, I'll definitely stick around and contribute to this great community and in the near future when I've broadened my knowledge of cats and their behavour, I will for sure help the others here.