Our kittens are 5 months old, and, since they are kittens, are extremely active and playful. We've had them for a month.
Neither of them is really a lap cat. In fact, Spencer has never sat or laid in either of our laps, although he will sleep right next to us sometimes. Lily can occasionally be VERY affectionate, but she's only ever done it with me. Out of nowhere, she'll jump in my lap, cuddle, look at me and "meow" quietly, and repeatedly head butt my face when I put it close to her. The cuddling session has to be her idea, though! Sometimes we'll wake up and find both of them sleeping between us in our bed. During waking hours, though, they usually like to sleep on the platforms in their cat tree, on the back of the couch, or Spencer sometimes sleeps under the couch. My husband is confused because the cats he had growing up were VERY affectionate, constantly in peoples' laps and loving to be around people. Our cats don't seem to care if we're sitting on the couch - they go for their own sleeping spaces, separate from us.
We're wondering if this is just a kitten thing, and maybe they'll get more affectionate as they get older and mellow out, or if we just have cats who are not incredibly affectionate or not lap cats? We love them either way, obviously, we're just wondering!
We haven't been around kittens since we were very young ourselves, so we're not sure how much cat personalities changes as they get older!