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post #1 of 7 (permalink) Old 02-06-2013, 02:44 PM Thread Starter
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male offspring bullying his mother

I am worrying about a male offspring bullying his mother. He chases her and tries to jump on her. I don't think she likes it. She has places to hide or can run outside except at night when they are in the house together. They seem ok in the morning. She used to hiss at him and sometimes still does but she definitely flees behind my bed or outside. He would jump her and wrestle her if he could. I have stopped him and made it clear it is not acceptable. Sometimes they will lay separated but on the same bed. When do I worry that she is being bullied too much. Ungrateful kid! She protected and took care of him when they lived outside and he was a momma's boy then. Maybe that is why he is the only kitten survivor.

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You don't say how old he is. If he is tiny, he is just developing his pecking order in the world. If he is a couple years old then it's probably a matter of truly bullying. I'm not much help I know, but we really need to know his age.

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You don't say how old he is. If he is tiny, he is just developing his pecking order in the world. If he is a couple years old then it's probably a matter of truly bullying. I'm not much help I know, but we really need to know his age.
You're probably right here... Going through a similar situation where my 11 month old does the same thing to the 6 year old cat.

I know 2-3 months ago that my vet and I were talking about it and it may be awhile for the kitten to get all his "kitten" out.
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post #4 of 7 (permalink) Old 02-06-2013, 06:07 PM Thread Starter
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Approximate age is 1 year now based original vet's guess when I first had him fixed. He is bigger than mom and weighs a pound or so more. Mom 2-3 years old.

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When do you worry she's being bullied too much? You should worry if she's hiding away most of the time, seems afraid of him, doesn't want to come out to eat or eats very little and then hides away, is losing weight, seems depressed and not enjoying life, doesn't play any more if she was very playful before. If she's doing any of these things consistently and it's increasing from what it used to be, I would be concerned. You'll either have to keep her separated from him when you're not there to supervise, and you may have to play the "heavy" and intervene if he's harassing her too much. Or you may have to re-home him. Males around 1 yr. do start to develop their "territory" and throw their weight around to be dominant, even over siblings or his momacat. If she stands up to him, which is difficult if he's much heavier and larger, he may mellow out as time goes along, but if he continues to bully it can make her life a misery and the added stress can result in health problems eventually.

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As catloverami said, that's a somewhat normal behavior, given his age. It should resolve on it's own once he figures out his place in the world. If it isn't better in a few weeks, or if it continues to escalate then you may need to intervene or take other steps.
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How sad. Thank you. I wouldn't want it to get even close to that. I do intervene now if she hasn't been able to get away or he is just being a pest. She used to fight back more but he is too strong and persistent. Luckily he goes out most of the day and she stays with me. Last night I put boxes out and covered it with a big sheet and hid treats all around with toys abundant so that he could keep busy. He just has a lot of energy. Ijust ordered a couple of interactive toys. I hope it resolves.
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