zuma, i don't necessarily want to discourage you, BUT i will at least tell you my own experience. we adopted angel a year ago and the shelter DID tell us they thought she'd be best as an only cat. however, naive me decided i just HAD to give a buddy for her a try because i was convinced she was lonely and maybe they just thought she didn't get along with other cats because she hated the shelter so much and wasn't happy, anyway. plus, i also figured we had the time, space, and money to try to give another deserving kitty a loving home.
well, it's been 6 months since we adopted the 2nd cat, lucy. angel is going to be 12 this year and lucy will be 15. angel was so spoiled with us as an only kitty and lucy is as mellow as you can get, so we figured angel would be able to accept her. the introduction is still going on really. angel still hisses every once in a while and even fakes a swipe at lucy when she gets too close. both are declawed and there has never been any actual physical contact, but emotionally/mentally, i think angel is still a bit stressed out about sharing her home. i believe the stress caused a herpes virus flareup and also contributed to a ringworm breakout, too! these were caused more by us being REAL suckers for needy kitties and adopting a 3rd cat in the last couple of months, who i think brought ringworm with him! the 3rd is a young male whipper snapper at just 7 and he has NO manners! he's loud and energetic and angel absolutely hates him right now, even though he is a baby and runs when she hisses at him. but we got roped into the 3rd because he was apparently pretty bonded with lucy at the shelter and was pretty depressed when we took her away, so we felt committed to bringing him home eventually, too.
okay, okay. enough of my woes. i'll end by saying that if i knew then what i know now, i don't think i would have ever looked for a buddy for angel. next time a shelter tells me a cat should be an "only" cat, i will believe them. i truly feel i have reduced the quality of angel's life with us by bringing in other cats. i would never give up #2 and #3 NOW, but it's sad to see my angel acting differently and refusing to go to certain parts of the house now. maybe it will improve still, but it is taking a LOT longer than i ever imagined.
good luck with your decision.
Last edited by maggie23; 02-27-2013 at 10:31 PM.