Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Mechanicsburg, PA, USA
Jenn, I think you won't have to return Saffire if you just wait it out. The reason why I say this, is that Pumpkin is not being aggressive or very emotional about Saffire's actions. He is doing what any male cat would so with a new female in their territory; defend against injury and back down while waiting for the female to chill out: afterall, to him a new female is a plus and may result in mating! I know, of course, she is fixed and so is he, but a male cat's outlook is generally the more the better when it comes to female cats in and around their territory. Once she decides she has her own areas of security in his territory, she will chill out. She may start doing this once she finds a few independent hiding places in the main room; which is one reason I encourage you to leave her alone in the main room overnight and take Pumpkin with you into the bedroom now and then.
Cats are all about personal security. Where can I hide to sleep, is my food supply secure, and can I get to it without being attacked? Where can I get water? If I go to the human to get pets, will I be attacked or can I get my petting fix without problems? Once Saffire answers all these questions for herself, she will chill. One thing against her chilling right now is this is mating season for cats. The Queens are starting to come into heat and the Toms are fighting for mating rights. She is not available for mating, yet there is this male that just might try and force her; Saffire needs to understand Pumpkin will not force her: and only time will show her that.
I think you have a great probability everything will settle down within two months at the most. Good luck.