My cat is friendly but prone to freak outs
Hi all, I really hope maybe someone can help me. My male cat Moose (will be 5 at the end of the month) is just crazy unpredictable lately. He loves to play and my husband and I give him and his sister, Crystal, lots of attention, toys, treats (they are basically our kids). However, Moose is definantly the more rough of the two. They both will play-fight regularly but Moose is more likely to take it too far when Crystal simply isn't interested. When that happens, she will hiss and swat and I seperate them. That is easy enough to deal with but Moose's moodswings lately is just baffling.
He loves to lay in laps and will purr, wanting pets but then (in typical cat fashion) he will freak out of nowhere even if his tail isn't twitching to signal he doesn't want to play anymore. Does anyone else have a problem with that- it's hard to judge his mood when that tail doesn't really tell me when he gets irritated. Are there other signs? Plus, he will walk up to people that come over as soon as they come in and rub against their legs but as soon as they lean down to touch him he swats at them (he is not declawed, mind you). It hurts and it's getting to the point where I don't want people over because I'm afraid he will bite/scratch when he is the one that initates first contact. It's just very difficult. The biggest problem I am having, however, is his behavior towards my husband. This is very strange but whenever my husband stands by the door or goes to leave he just freaks out on his feet. He does this to guests (he doesn't do it to me, for some reason) as well so I am afraid of even having people stand by the door. That door, I don't know, it just really makes him agressive. How do I curb this?
I feel like I am doing everything right- we play with them, they gets lots of attention, special treats etc. I can't figure out, I feel like I did something wrong raising him. His sister is just so sweet all the time. It is driving me crazy because I can't figure out how to get him to calm down. We did play quite rough with them (like with stuff animals, letting him attack them) when he was younger because he loved it but I read that encourages aggression so we are trying to stop now. Does all of this stem from that? Any help is appriciated- I really thank you all.