Cat hates my boyfriend!
My 7 year old cat, Maple, has always been timid around anyone except me. But she always warms up after a few minutes of hiding. She loves being petted and being the center of attention.
I've recently moved my long distance boyfriend into my apartment. Maple had met him before and has behaved, enjoying his pets and attention. The last time they saw each other, she was purring as my boyfriend petted her goodbye. Now, when he entered the apartment with his belongings a little over a month ago, Maple didn't give him the slightest chance. She hissed and ran from him immediately.
Since then, she's escalated to swiping at him and growling. If he even enters the same room as her, she will hiss and growl. His poor hands are covered in scratches. The first time I left the two of them home alone together Maple was so upset that she crawled into a cabinet and stayed in there all day, pooping and peeing on herself.
More confusing is that sometimes she approaches him and rubs against him like she wants attention, and will let him pet her, then will arbitrarily decide he's awful and will hiss and run.
I try to give her tons of attention to make her feel secure, but I don't want to seem like I'm praising her bad behavior. She's never "hated" someone like this before, and her "I love you, no I hate you!" flip-flops are so confusing!
Can anyone shed some light on her actions or help us to help her get past this?