Hello! I have recently joined your site as I really need some help.
My partner was recently given by someone at work a kitten because they couldn't cope and they knew we had 3 others. Ste being the man that he is couldn't say no because he felt so sorry for him and did not like the idea of the kitten being pawned off to someone else when we could give him a loving home. The couple got him when he was 6 weeks and he is now 9 weeks old (we've had him just over a week now in his safe room). We have renamed him Eddard (any Game of Throne fans will know!)
I've read as much as I can and even looked at YouTube videos about introducing the cats. My current 3 residents are Ziggy Tilly & Toot (Ziggy and Toot are my boys and Tilly is my girl all neutered and spayed) and are 2 years old. These 3 came from the same litter so we had no issues with trying to introduce them.
Now I've turned the spare room into a safe room for Lil Eddard and he's got water, food, litter and plenty of toys and gets plenty of attention. When he came to us I did the towel and brush thing where you rub the scent around the house and on the residents and when we've moved Eddard to the living room, I've let the others in the safe room to have a good sniff around.
Eddard is now getting extremely confident and is running out of his safe room when the door is opened and the other 3 are all surprisingly waiting around on the landing, my boys are more intrigued by him and they are hissing and growling and batting him away with their paws but from what I've read this is normal behaviour from resident cats. My main problem is Tilly, her body language is a lot different to the other 2, her growl and hissing sound a lot more violent and Eddard this morning tried to run up to her and she sounded very violent and angry towards him. I don't want to stress any of them out and I am concerned for all 4 of them.
Just as a side note the behaviour of my 3 resident cats have not changed towards me or my partner, they still purr and nudge and act normal when Eddard is in his room.
I am really looking for help as I feel we might have not done the right thing by taking this little guy on