Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: The Peoples Republic of Illinois
"Cats are standoffish and aloof"... yeah, RIGHT!
Every time I hear some dog owner or non-pet-owner proclaim how they don't like cats because they are standoffish, independent, not affectionate, etc., I have to wonder what cats they've ever been exposed to. Either that or they invariably have one or more children who shout and squeal with glee "OH LOOK AT DA KYOOT WIDDLE KITTIE!!!!" and go tromping after the cats.
Heck, *I* want to hide from that. *shudder*
Cats are frequently portrayed as antisocial, when in my experience nothing could be further from the truth. It's a *different* socialization from that of dogs, but certainly not a lesser one.
In fact, one of my cats is going through a phase where I *wish* he'd be a bit more aloof and standoffish. His clinginess is driving me bonkers.
Chubs, all 18-19 pounds of him, is a ginormous fraidycat. He will sit in the middle of the kitchen calling incessantly at certain times of the day. It's not about food. It's not about wanting to go out. He just wants attention. If I reply, he will run pell mell, mewling at the top of his lungs, towards wherever I am. It's a high-pitched whiney meow (he's the feline equivalent of Nathan Lane in The Birdcage). He's purring furiously, rubbing up against me, wanting to be petted.
20-30 minutes later, later-rinse-repeat.
Starting at about 10pm, he will try to convince me that it's time for bed, again calling, meowing, mewling, but this time he won't let up. Once in the bedroom, he'll jump up on the bed and proceed to climb all over me... a 20-pound cat sitting on top of you purring loudly making biscuits is... uncomfortable. He will climb up, down, all around, head-butting me, wanting to groom my hands/arms, munch on my nose, etc.
He'll plop down on my pillow and start chewing on the back of my head, mixed with the occasional head butt. He's a big kitty, so it will occasionally hurt. He's purring the entire time.
After about 15 minutes of this he'll settle down... somewhat. He still wants to be right up against me or holding down one of my arms.
Standoffish? Aloof? Not affectionate? Some days I could only wish... he's tiring.