Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Cobourg, Ontario, Canada
Around 2 years old is the growing up or what I call the maturity age when cats (usually males) start to vie for being top cat or bosscat of a household. Tho sometimes it's a female that takes on this role....in my experience usually a tortie or torbie. Boots is showing that he wants to be the top cat, especially if he's pushing away other cats off your lap. Nipper is acting like a victim slinking around, which only eggs Boots on to chase and bully her. So what to do? You've done everything you can to try and make it better with various toys and cat trees to provide more vertical space. It's very difficult if not impossible to change a cat's personality once it's reach "maturity". Sometimes it's better to go with the flow and accept that Boots is going to be #1 and treat him as such.....he gets fed first, etc. If this doesn't make him less aggressive, then sometimes you have to step into the role yourself of being "top cat", especially if things have reached the point where other cats are afraid to move in fear or eat or are being constantly attacked viciously. Then I would try make things more harmonious by isolating him from the other cats when you cannot be present to supervise. I don't like spraying water as a deterrent, but going after him with cross words and stomping feet are often enough to make a bully retreat. Sometimes you have to treat one....what's that expression? "an iron hand in a velvet
glove"? When he is behaving well, he should be praised verbally (lot of "good boys"), if being a bad bully, isolation in another room may work, or harsh words and stomping feet. If he pushes one of the cats out of your lap, you can still give them both attention and caresses. If it comes to the point he is viciously continuously attacking one of your cats and drawing blood and puts the whole household in stress (including yourself), it's time to reconsider re-homing him. It's not fair to the other cats to have to live under such stress and it's debilitating to yourself as well. Hope some of these suggestions are helpful.
"There are no ordinary cats.";"Time spent with a cat is never wasted."~ Colette
"A loving cat can mend a wounded heart." ~ Unknown Author
Alkitotle aka "Alkee", "Lambie" (July 2/04 - Oct. 2/15) -- white Devon Rex
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