Well it's been a few weeks since Kiki's spay and we've made some progress, but we are no where near where I had hopes to be.
First off. Kiki's incision healed up nicely! She took it upon herself to remove a second stitch on day 10, and I was able to safely remove the rest on day 14.
Kiki seems to be a bit calmer since her surgery, but there are still issues.
I am able to have Kiki out running around the house when I am home. She's not guarding the boxes downstairs anymore but she will follow Lula or Milo if they go down there to pick a fight. I put a box upstairs in the room next to Kiki's and she watches that one just as closely.
At this point, I have to take Milo downstairs and close the door so he will use the box. Kiki will always be sitting outside the door when I open it. She runs into the room and then figures out that I am carrying Milo upstairs, turns and has attacked my ankles when I am walking back up the stairs with Milo. (not in a super-aggressive way - more like a kid that gets mad when you take away somethin they are not supposed to be playing with.)
Milo will spend his time under the kitchen table, or on the couch with us when Kiki is out. Kiki has come up to him on the couch a few times, her pupils get really big, she moves very slowly, and when she is spotted - she backs away in slow motion. I am not sure if she is trying to get close to him to smell him, or if she has an interest in antagonizing him. She does this a lot.
Lula is a different story. Kiki seeks Lula out, she will sit in close proximity to Lula whining and staring. What is this? I guess I think she is trying to push the boundaries with Lula, but I am not sure. Lula will sit quietly and just stare at her while she does this. Eventually Lula will stop paying attention and Kiki will end up laying down right in the same spot. Is this progress? I don't know.
See what I mean? (Lula is on a chair under the table in this pic.)
Saturday morning I woke up with Kiki sleeping on the bed next to me while Milo and Lula were sleeping in their spots on pillows at the head of the bed! It was a breakthrough moment for me. So two nights ago I decided to try leaving Kiki out when we went to bed. She had been doing so well during the day, I thought it was time to give it a try. Both Milo and Lula were already in bed when Kiki decided to get on the bed as well. Lula started growling, and Milo decided to jump down after a minute - when he did, Kiki attacked him and scratched the top eyelid on one of his eyes. I woke up the next morning to see poor Milo's eye was swollen shut. Luckily it was a very small scratch and the swelling went down by the time I came home from work so I did not take him to the vet.
Kiki gets to play with DaBird all by herself and gets worn down. Milo and Lula will not play with DaBird when Kiki is watching and none of them will eat any treats! I don't know how I can make positive associations when they are not interested in the rewards.
I guess I feel like we are on the brink, but obviously not all there. Part of me thinks that Kiki wants to be around Milo and Lula, but then she provokes an incident. I don't know how bad she is with Milo, he screams bloody murder which makes me think things are worse than they probably are. He is the one I worry about most, he does not have claws and he knows it, so he does not have the confidence to defend himself from being bullied. Yet, when Kiki is in her room, he sits outside her door and even sleeps there like he is waiting for his friend to come out.
I am so confused at what is happening.
Also - I am not reacting to any of this. When there is aggression I am pulling the aggressor out of the picture and giving everyone a time out. I am trying my hardest to not feel any apprehension, or excitement when there is any interaction - I don't want to influence anything with my concern. I am trying to be strong for all of them. LOL
We are going on 4 months of this and I just wonder if we'll ever get there. I have exactly 4 months to go before we leave town for a week and I am so nervous about what will happen when we are gone.
I am so sorry for all of my rambling, I hope what I am trying to convey is coming through. It's late and I barely had any time to pop on here and put this together.
Here are some more photos of Kiki in all of her glory.