I will post this in the behaviors forum, but have seen that I have to post in the introductions forum first.
My partner and I are moving into a new house at the end of March, and both of us have 2 cats. I have a male who is relaxed and soppy (but very jealous if my attention is on anything else and fairly shy of others), and a female who is very much a diva and hisses / growls a lot for no reason. They used to get on wonderfully and would always be cuddled up, but now my female is very grumpy with the male and often hits and hisses at him. Occasionally they do lick each other and sit next to each other, but not often. I have a neighbours cat who wonders in and out of my house who they both love, they play and sit together all the time (I'm not sure if its male or female).
My partners 2 cats are both male and very cuddly, relaxed and inseparable.
The house we are moving into is a decent size and has 3 bedrooms. I wondered if anyone else has had experience of blending 4 cats, and how you logistically separated them? The conundrum I'm facing is:
1) Do I keep my two in the same room and risk them fighting, or keep them in separate rooms but risk them missing each other? My partners cats will be fine in a room together. The difficulty with keeping mine in different rooms is that then one lot will have to be in our bedroom, and that might look like favoritism in their eyes.
I have bought a feliway diffuser and spray to put in the house before we move the cats in.
Any help would be most appreciated
Thanks so much!