Scruffing a bigger kitten, opinions?
He's 6 months old, growing adult teeth and a bit more irritable than usual. He's been neutered at 4 months old
He is the most brilliant, intelligent animal I've ever met. He sits when told, stops doing naughty business or mowing like a crazy cat if i tell him in firm voice how he's being a baby and to stop it. He is super cuddly but also very independent. I just love him to bits.
He started losing his baby teeth end of September and whilst I'm doing my best to ease his pain and itching, he is visibly more irritable and sometimes he resorts to unprovoked, sudden aggression. He is used to getting things his way, as we live alone, just the two of us, and I have the luxury of giving him my undivided attention.
I don't mind him surfing the counters, he just likes to watch what i do up there, he eats when he asks for it and grain free premium cat food (he will not eat anything else now), and on occasion when i do have to say no and deny him something, he gets into my lap pretending to want to cuddle and attacks me. He gets loads of play and this isn't play aggression, it's him telling me, slave, you will now be punished, lol
I've tried time out, short ones (less than an hour) don't work, long ones (hour or even close to two) work for a day or two, tried ignoring him he just goes after me displaying aggressive postures, that are too adorable to describe lol, but at that time I'm afraid to go near him.
Trying to find a solution for this, after he scratched me up pretty badly a few times, I came across videos of how to properly scruff a big kitten or even an adult cat.
Apparently, some people do it (some of them animal trainers) when they want to clip the nails and groom the cat, some to stop dominance aggression, and of course it's not picking up a big kitten, it would be a firm grip to his scruff and holding him down for a 2-3 seconds.
I've tried it once and it did work, but I am not sure if it's the right thing to do.
Is letting him bunny kick a toy or bed covers when he attacks me a better method?
The thing is after he bites, scratches and bunny kicks the duvet or a toy, pretty soon he is ready to move on to me. So I can't see how this would help.
Again, I don't pick him up by the scruff or do it very hard or long, i do pick up enough scruff too, and I only do it as a last resort.
I would never do it when he's play fighting, kneading me, mowing like a mad man, being curious, or doing anything cats normally should do. It's just that I can't let him grow up thinking it's OK to punish me every time he doesn't get what he wants, and again, he gets pretty much anything he wants, except dangerous stuff, or a free pass to terrorise me.
I also heard from a very good and well respected vet nurse, that actually holds seminars for veterinarian staff that scruffing, when done properly and only for absolutely inappropriate behaviours, isn't abuse and does not hurt the cat, and he will know what it's for if i only do it after his very bad attacks.
Last edited by marie73; 10-25-2017 at 12:38 AM.
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