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post #1 of 3 (permalink) Old 07-27-2018, 04:17 PM Thread Starter
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Is this playful or hurtful behavior?

I have an overweight male kitty who's about 28 pounds (he's dieting under veterinarian's constant supervision) and my roommate has a small 9-month old female kitten that's probably under 10 pounds. They've been best of friends for many months, since the day the kitten first entered the household. They sleep together and groom each other often. Both cats are fixed. The female kitten is extremely vocal and walks around talking constantly. Lately, my large cat has begun trying to pin the little kitten down, biting her and using his weight in an attempt to immobilize her. The kitten fights back, vocalizing loudly and wiggling. It freaks my roommate out because she thinks my big cat is hurting the little one. However, whenever I see them doing this, I walk over and insert my fingers into the area my cat is biting; he's not breaking the kitten's skin and is actually applying very little pressure. The only thing the kitten ends up with is a bit of wet fur. Also, the kitten sounds peeved, but not in any pain, and she keeps coming back for more. Should I be concerned? Should I be reprimanding my cat? I don't want to be mean to my guy if they're just tussling. Any ideas?
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post #2 of 3 (permalink) Old 07-27-2018, 11:03 PM
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So even tho your cats are "fixed" or neutered and spayed, some males are still interested in trying to mate. Since your female is protesting, I would, even tho she keeps going back for more, because of male's weight I would be concerned that he could hurt her. Try distracting her with a wand toy, or other toys that she can bat around on the floor such as foil balls, ping pong balls, plastic spirals (available at pet stores), and give your boy catnip mouse, or drag a cord around behind you. Get them into more play with you or toys. If you're unsure that they'll be safe when you're away from your home, then separate them into different rooms. Looking after young cats is like babysitting 2 y.o. kids, you have to be observant and vigilant.

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post #3 of 3 (permalink) Old 08-02-2018, 01:05 PM
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My two started out that way and now the female avoids being near the male and jumps when he is around. So eventually she didn't like it. The weight difference you have is significant. I would be a little worried about it escalating.
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