Thank you all for the suggestions, unfortunatly I have still been left with no good or bad reviews from various people on those brands I mentioned.
I've been told by a couple people, including the doctor at my practice to put him on benydrle (sp?) and see how that goes.
There are some animals, just as people, whom might have to be on some sort of medication, or some other combination treatment all their lives.
I have heard absolutly no reviews on Feliway being helpful for this issue, it's not even the intented purpose of the product.
I have spoken with behavorists in the past myself, I even work with one currently, I've researched animal behavoir for years, but not everything, specially a new issue, can have an instant fix.