What can I do? aggression problems, still (long)
We have been having problems with Stephen for quite some time. She has become so moody and aggressive. I had thought it was because she was getting older, but she's only 6 - and from what I've learned here, that's still pretty young for an indoor cat. She's healthy and active, so it's not a medical problem.
The biggest issue is that she tears up my live-in boyfriend on a somewhat regular basis. When he sits with her and pets her, she will all of a sudden flip out and take off, usually tearing him up in the process. I've watched this happen over and over again. It's not that she does anything to harm her. And I've watched for the warning signs that she's had enough, but she doesn't give any when this happens. She comes to him for the attention; in fact, it's probably a very true statement to say that he gives her more one-on-one attention than I do.
I don't have this problem with her. I was talking to my boss about it today, and she suggested that maybe Stephen is just a one person cat. And now that I put a timeline to it, she's been doing this since we moved in together 18 months ago. She used to love it when he'd come to my apartment. But now he's full of scars. In the first six months or so after we moved in, she was hissing and growling and biting - all of which were never problems before.
She did it again today, only this time she ran up his shoulder and down his back which was extremely painful for him. I have soft paws on her front claws, but it's so hard to keep up with them because she fights the whole process. And sometimes she'll just bite for no reason, either - and not let go.
Does anyone have any suggestions or maybe have dealt with this before? My boss suggested maybe she would be better with an elderly, single person. She has a good heart and is a loving cat; something's just not right with our situation, I think, that makes her so unhappy.
What can do I do?