Re: oliver is dying,advice please
I'm so sorry this is happening. Many of us have lost our kitties in a very similar way -- quick onset of a problem, having to think the unthinkable with little or no warning. In our case, the whole onset and end happened within 11 days, and when the cat was only 3 years old.
It does sound like, from what you've said, that it might be time. I know my husband and I agreed when we first got a cat that you don't treat a cat for cancer.
Since losing Rookie earlier this year, I've had a couple thoughts that kind of help me. Let me see if I can write this in a way that makes sense. First, I tell myself -- it's not their fault they have shorter lifespans than we do. They just happen to be the species with the shorter lifespan, so the burden will almost always fall on us to be the ones to grieve over them, and not vice versa. Secondly, by being the one left behind -- which I'm totally convinced is harder than being the one who dies -- we're kind of taking one on the chin to spare them from having to do it. Think of taking one for the team. You're taking the very rough road of being the one to endure the loss so they won't have to. It feels kind of honorable to me.
Please let us know how things are going. Again, I'm very sorry.
Holly and Murphy