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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-20-2015, 06:33 AM Thread Starter
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Is it time to let go?

Hello everyone, this is my first post and I really could use some advise. My cat, Beedee has has a lung tumor for 5 months. She started out coughing and that was the reason for the vet visit. After X-rays they found a mass and I opted not to do further testing or treatment. She is almost 15 and car rides extremely upset her. She was put on prednisone and has been very limited in activity but generally ok. Last week I think she took a turn for the worst and started coughing so violently and then would vomit up blood. Now she does that almost everyday. She still eats and purrs but for the most part lays in the corner of my basement where I set up blankets, food, water. She can't move throughout the house without stopping to catch her breath. The vet thinks her time is near and so do I. We set a tentative day for this Saturday but then I called to cancel. But now I am thinking to call back today and set it up again. This is ripping me apart. I would like to hear from like minded people as to what they would do. Thanks!
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post #2 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-20-2015, 06:55 AM
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Oh I am so sorry to read your post. Letting go is the hardest decision to make but also one of the greatest gifts you can make out of love for them. Only you can make that final call but I would say it is better to make that call al little early than too late and put her through more discomfort. I would also suggest try to get the vet to you as that would be easier on both of you. Sending hugs at this time
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I would make the call. You will not be happy pushing her through another weekend when you cannot help her. Much sympathy, it's a horrible situation. My old cat had a bladder tumor and I went through a similar thing. The relief when it is over is great, although the "missing my cat" is also great.
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post #4 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-20-2015, 02:48 PM
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We went through a similar thing with our 16 year old Chelsea. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. But I have complete peace it was the right thing to do. Prolonging the cats suffering for our own benefit is not good, although we miss her so much.

We have just adopted 2 rescue kittens and they are great fun and are creating a new place in our hearts (Chloe is here on my desk interfering with my typing as I write this ) but we will will always miss Chelsea. They all have their own unique personalities that we love.
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This is so sad, I'm sorry you're all going through this. I would call and reset the appointment.

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Thank you to those who have replied. I have reset the appointment and my vet is going to come to my house tomorrow and give her a shot of tranquilizer to make her fall asleep and then I will drive her over to the clinic where she will be put to sleep. This is a heart wrenching decision and is ripping me apart but I cannot think of myself and I want her to die with dignity and without anymore pain. I just love her so much and want her to finally be at peace.
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Sometimes the best thing to do is also the hardest.

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post #8 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-20-2015, 04:47 PM
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Beedee,
My heart goes out to you...I've been where you are...:'(
It truly is the Final, most important gift of Love, we can give them...to set them free, with dignity, no more pain...ever...

I personally would have the vet finish the 'sending off' at my house...that way, any other cats, dogs, could say their 'goodbyes', then she could either be buried, or cremated...

Our hearts, always hurt, that part never gets easier...no matter how many times, you live through it...
We'll be here for you...
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post #9 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-20-2015, 05:44 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone. This is just bad to go through. I feel like my heart is being ripped out. I appreciate all the kind words and support.

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Some years ago we lost our much loved Trixie - she was about 24 at a guess - certainly over 20 but it was still a difficult decision. All you can do is try to assess what is best for your baby. What I can agree (sadly) is that whatever you do, you will beat yourself up. It's inevitable when we love as much as we all do.
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