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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 08:50 AM Thread Starter
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Hello. I have had two female cats for around 2.5 years (The older one is 5 and the younger one is 3) and recently decided to get a third cat because I was worried if something happened to one of the cats, the other would be alone.

Anyway, Wes is a male. He had no problem coming in and is basically that obnoxious house guest who comes in, eats all your food and sleeps on your couch and is a friend to everyone. The girls were obviously upset at first, but after a few weeks, they've grown to at least tolerate him. They no longer hiss at him, and my younger cat has even taken to seeking him out when she can't find him.

The two girls no longer play like they once did, which I was expecting because they're obviously not happy that this intruder is in their midst. They used to chase each other all over the house and as recently as last week I heard them upstairs chasing each other like two buffaloes.

However, it's almost like the older female (5) is depressed. She doesn't play like she once did, and sometimes I worry that she is actually hurt. The only thing that makes me think she isn't hurt is that she still eats and drinks and can take the stairs no problem. However, she seems like she's stiff when she stands up and almost like she moves gingerly. I don't know what to do. The girls have their own room upstairs. Actually, they have the entire upstairs because it's too hot up there for me, but they love it. Anyway, the only time Kawnu comes downstairs is to beg me for chicken when I'm eating dinner. She doesn't even come downstairs to get on the window perch anymore.

Is it normal for a cat to be upset when a new cat comes in and stop playing?

Or am I just a crazy cat parent?

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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 11:49 AM
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How old is the new cat? Does he jump out at or chase your 5-yr-old? It could be she's afraid she's going to encounter him. When I have a cat who's nervous about one or more of the others, I've notice that s/he tends to move very slowly if s/he thinks the others are around. If this is the case, maybe giving her some extra love and attention will help.
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post #3 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 12:07 PM Thread Starter
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The new cat is almost twice her size, and he is 7. He doesn't know a stranger, so even after the introduction period where I would let them sniff each other through the door, etc., he still runs up to them like they are his best friend and it unnerves them.

Like I said, she has stopped hissing at him, and they mostly tolerate him, but she has stopped coming downstairs for the most part and has definitely stopped being my huge goofball who would smack at the 3 year old's back paws to try to trip her.
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post #4 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 12:48 PM
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It can take a long time for the cats to go back to their normal. The girls have never lived with a boy? My giant boy used to scare every cat he tried playing with. It took one of his friends a year to finally relax and play normally. Get your one cat checked over by a vet and if nothing is wrong maybe try feliway and calming drops in everyone's water.

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post #5 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 04:46 PM Thread Starter
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Yeah, I am thinking I just need to get her checked to make sure she's okay physically. I was just at the vet a few weeks ago and she seemed fine (except for dirty ears that were making her lose her balance, but since she had her ears cleaned she has been fine)

As long as she's healthy, I can deal with her not being too pleased with the new cat in the house for right now. They used to live out back with the other strays but I brought them in and since they've been in, they've been Queens of the Castle, so they might just not be happy with the big change.

Also I put Revolution on them last week and I've been concerned since then that they haven't taken very well to it. The day I put it on they were both pretty sleepy, so maybe that's another reason.
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post #6 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-16-2019, 08:21 PM
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My 2 were ferals before I brought them home and some things they just take a bit to get used to. They still, after 2 years as house pets, react weird and change their behaviour when I put flea drops on them. After a few days they seem to forgive me.

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